. Feelings are the realest things and the true measure of existence. All that matters in any relationship is how you make each other feel. Thoughts and language are imprecise, relatively superficial, and often erroneous efforts to invoke, analyze, express, suppress, inhibit, change, quantify and understand feelings. This is why feelings are the focus and entry point through which everything is resolved in the work we do together in our therapeutic spiritual counseling sessions, and this is why it is effective.