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Your Spiritual Compass, the Essence of You, your Greatest Asset

Self-actualization, the uninhibited integration of all that is you, your joy, your energy, your passion, the full extent of all your abilities to be, experience, create and accomplish, is the innermost drive of your essential self, as a spiritual being. And that pure, effortlessly driven core of your being can be readily accessed. It is always expressing, if you stop to hear, see and feel it.

It is you, pure and natural, and when you have negatives expressing in your mind, that is you, expressing exactly what it is you need to address, accept, digest and process so as to grow in the direction of your own true self-actualization, and to connect with all your underlying passion, joy and positive energies.

The approach of Therapeutic Spiritual Counseling is based on the recognition of your spiritual compass. The techniques facilitate the resolving of your negative spiritual architectures, connection with your powers and abilities, and the unfettered accomplishment of your dreams and your aspirations.

With Love,
Dexter Gelfand

Recognizing and Dispensing with Problematic “Solutions”

One of the magical secrets of Therapeutic Spiritual Counseling:

Instead of trying to find some kind of “solution” for that condition, address what that condition is intended to serve as a solution to for you.

Your chronic conditions persist because they are intended to be a means of drawing a response or reaction from others that you consider to be desirable. Through the techniques of Therapeutic Spiritual Counseling, you can connect with this self-knowledge, re-examine that thought process and the results of it, and dispense with what doesn’t help you or further your purposes.

Love, Dex

My Mission (from the introduction to my book)

From the introduction to my forthcoming book, “Realizing Greater Expression of Self through the Recognition, Acceptance, and Application of the Natural Laws of Therapeutic Spiritual Counseling”:

There is a nature preserve that I have always enjoyed walking through. There I can sense the consciousness of all the life around me, and it’s awareness of me. The profundity of this experience inspires me.

There are so many cultures, religions, and people and groups that impress upon other people their concepts of spirituality, God and the nature of existence. We can find ourselves encumbered and lost in the indoctrinations, having our sovereignty subsumed without realizing what has happened.

I endeavor to help people to unburden themselves of their externally imposed and self created spiritual architectures so that then maybe they can find the peaceful space from which to observe and connect with such essentials of coexistence on their own as they themselves find these to be, and regain all the peace, joy and serenity that is inherent in accomplishing these.

Love, Dex

An Amazing Technique: Spiritual Digestion

In sessions guided by me or any of the practitioners I’ve mentored, this technique works perfectly to resolve any chronic unwanted feeling. My participants, having experienced it through my guidance, learn to apply this on their own, with at least partial, if not complete relief.

Any emotion, virtually anything that can be felt, is simply an expression of some type of energy. What makes one feeling or emotion different from any other could be said to be the particular vibrational frequency of that energy. And so the energy expressing as panic is of a different vibrational frequency than the energy expressing as irritation, or hostility, or apathy, joy, enthusiasm, etc.

The natural tendency is to react to any unwanted feeling by trying to resist it. Resistance only makes things persist, and makes them stronger. Acceptance then is the solution. Spiritual digestion. As undigested material in your stomach will surely cause you discomfort, so will undigested feelings. And so, there is the need for a technique for digesting.

Step One: Identify the particular emotion or feeling that is disturbing you, in whatever terms best articulate it for you.

Step Two: Recognize and conceive of that feeling as, simply and only, energy expressing through you, that you have been reacting to by trying to resist it.

Step Three: Cease all resistance. Relax completely every muscle, head and body. Unclench your mind. Be completely relaxed, generate no effort of any kind; do not try to DO anything to, with, or about the energy that expresses as that feeling.

Step Four: Effortlessly allow that energy to freely express through you, to permeate, unresisted. Simply notice and feel the expression of the energy of that feeling, allowing it to naturally, spiritually be absorbed and digest within you.

Think of it like drinking hot tea, the heat passes through you and diminishes, disintegrates, fully expressed. Or like a person that has been demanding your attention, yelling at you, and the faster you walk away from them, the faster they follow you and the louder they yell, and so you stop, turn around, and let them have their say, without interrupting or stopping them; they have their say fully, and having done so, are done and it is over.

Don’t “try to make it go away”, or anything like that. Simply allow and accept the presence of what is expressing; don’t try to make it diminish, instead let it diminish, through thorough, relaxed acceptance.

If you catch yourself resisting in some fashion, which means that you are generating energy against it, and thus strengthening it, just notice you’ve been doing that, and return to doing step four as given.

That’s all there is to it!

Tearing Down our Walls, to Become Whole Again

Past, present, and future are all actually “nows”, and if we aren’t too busy denying or resisting it, all of our connections are always part of us. We construct walls in our minds for separation from things that are unpleasant, things that seem to conflict with our present situations, things that we want to forget or keep hidden, but these accumulating “no-fly zones”, in decreasing our wholeness, make us smaller, more restricted and more restrictive, cutting off pieces of our existence, tantamount to losing parts of ourselves.

All experience can be digested and absorbed, integrated within to make us whole, to be all that we are, and all that we can be. Greater happiness, and moving upward from fearfulness and resignation to a childlike wonder for all that can be encountered in life is restored through approach and deconstructing our walls, to assimilate, digest and integrate all that is part of our life continuum, to restore and regain the full expanse and spectrum that makes each of us confident, optimistic, able to appreciate and feel the joy of living, of having and living our passions, and as highly functional as we inherently are in pursuing these.

To be fully whole and alive, one must aspire and progress in the direction of tearing down the walls and integrating all that is us.

This principle also has relevance in recognizing our part in the community that is all beings.

Love, Dex

Resolving a Stubbornly Held Protective Attitude (SHPA)

The Stubbornly Held Protective Attitude, often observable in others and yourself expresses an energy that deflects and closes the door on connecting with and permeating something. It is a resistance to something, expressed essentially as:

“I want no part of that”

Think of it as the sound of a heavy metal door closing; a formidable resistance, a firm, resolute, “I won’t go there!”

It’s a rigid and obstinate knee-jerk response, and it is not too hard to tell that in this moment, the being is not really present; they are substituting a rigid attitude in place of their presence.

Just behind this thought-energy shield that is being presented lies a state of anxiety and/or confusion, so intense at times that it is palpable. They can’t “go there”; they don’t dare, because something about that subject is related to something in that person’s mind that for them is dangerous and overwhelming.

This is not the precise procedure, but rather the sequence of the actual steps. I am daily engaged in mentoring and training practitioners in the actual procedure, and I can train you too, if you are so impassioned.

The basic sequence for resolving a Stubbornly Held Protective Attitude (SHPA) is as follows:

1. Notice or discover the manifesting of an SHPA

2: Get your participant to express the phrase that best articulates the attitude.

3. Have your participant process (spiritually digest) the energy of the specific feeling or emotion that drives the attitude.

4.Have your participant articulate and examine exactly what emotionally charged condition he or she generated the SHPA as a shield to protect him or her from.

5. Have your participant recount and examine the circumstances over their existence of that condition occurring, that would trigger the use of the SHPA, thus processing and diminishing the intensity of the condition, so as to encourage and enable your participant to reexamine their perceived need for such an SHPA to shield them from that condition.

6. Have your participant examine all the consequences of having used the SHPA for protection from that condition.

7. Have your participant reevaluate, so as to decide to dispense with, that SHPA.

8. Have your participant fully process and resolve the painful or devastating condition for which generating and employing the SHPA was their response, using the Resolution Technique.

9. Have your participant continue to fully reexamine and reevaluate every tributary connected to the SHPA, so as to completely clean any and all replications out.

10. Have your participant now create a positive perspective and attitude in relation to the subject material of the SHPA to carry forward in life.

The Ultimate Barrier

Over the course of my life and work, I’ve come to see how we hold ourselves down, that something in us can withhold permission to have our dreams come true, to be too big, too powerful, to fly too high. There’s a part of us that says that we are undeserving, or incapable. Or that we will abuse or waste such power, harm others, or fail. There is a part of ourselves that is afraid to ask for too much, the part that says “I could never be, or have, something that great”. I believe this to be our ultimate barrier.

We all need to forgive, trust and love ourselves. We all need to recognize just how vital this is. Part of that journey is to recognize how and why we’ve fallen into a negative attitude about ourselves and what the consequences of this have been, so as to understand how damaging this has been. Then we can reconsider our choices and take on a winning attitude.

Therapeutic Spiritual Counseling can help.

— Love, Dex

As the Holidays Approach!

Warm regards to my participants past, present and future, to my trainees I’m mentoring, to those of you who are following me through my website, and all of my valued friends!

As we approach the holidays, these can present challenges particular to each of us, such as:

  • Interacting with people where the relationship is rough
  • Dealing with the loss of those no longer with us at this time
  • The stresses of the demands expected of us at this time
  • Looking at the end of another year, falling below your hopes and expectations for how things would be by now
  • The discomforts and issues related to cold weather
  • The shortened days and less daylight
  • The disturbing of normal and routine life
  • Interacting and dealing with others who don’t handle this time of year well

And more…

I’m here, and as you’ve learned from experience, I can help, so if you want to take advantage of my skills to make it better, now’s the time to contact me and to make plans!

I’m envisioning love, happiness and prosperity for you in the coming year!

— Best, Dex

The Stubbornly Held Protective Attitude

In psychology, there is the term, “defense mechanism”:

“Any of various usually unconscious mental processes, including denial, projection, rationalization, and repression, that protect the ego from shame, anxiety, conflict, loss of self-esteem, or other unacceptable feelings or thoughts.”

Doubtless this mental mechanism has been recognized in many other terms as well through the ages, perhaps most simply as “stubborn attitudes”, which is as good a way of saying it as any, in terms of being the most universally recognizable attribute of this type of frequently repeated automatic responding to various things a person encounters.

It can be frustrating and exhausting to encounter these “stubborn attitudes” in other people, in which case it is so much more obvious how illogical, and how mentally confining these are for a being. What we have great difficulty realizing is how heavily stocked most, if not all of us are with these mentally and spiritually crippling mechanisms.

Understanding the specific composition, function, and mechanics of a Stubbornly Held Protective Attitude (“SHPA”)

First, there is the most visible, surface characteristic that identifies this attitude:

It imposes an energy that deflects and closes the door on connecting with and permeating something. It is a resistance to something, expressed essentially as: “I want no part of that.”

Think of it as the sound of a heavy metal door closing; a formidable resistance, a firm, resolute “I won’t go there.”

It’s a rigid and obstinate knee-jerk response, and it is not too hard to tell that at this moment, the being is not really present; they are substituting a rigid attitude in place of their presence.

Just behind this thought-energy shield that is being presented lies a state of anxiety and/or confusion, so intense at times that it is palpable. They can’t “go there”; they don’t dare, because something about that subject is related to something in that person’s mind that for them is dangerous and overwhelming.

In fact, the very energy that powers the resistance in that Stubbornly Held Protective Attitude is the energy of some dangerous and overwhelming experience(s) involving that subject which is now being resisted through that attitude. The recognition of this being the very substance of that attitude is a very important breakthrough, which opens up new possibilities in thoroughly and effectively deconstructing the particularly daunting spiritual architecture of the Stubbornly Held Protective Attitude (SHPA).

The basic technique is to invite the person to recognize, and consciously and rationally examine and re-evaluate the particular attitude”. By asking precise and specific questions that bring this about, for example, bits and pieces of the energy holding that wall of resistance in place bleed out as expressions of the energy of the emotional pain and fear of the underlying prior overwhelming experience(s), which then allows the for the opportunity to guide the participant to successfully spiritually digest that energy and be done with it. The apparent “solid wall” is successfully being dis-integrated.

Processing the stubbornly held protective attitude can expose the being to the underlying feelings of fear and pain, and these will, in fact, bleed through in addressing it, and so it is essential to address these as they become available in penetrating the “shield” of the protective attitude, and so part of the work to be done here is the processing of those underlying items.

And beyond even that, there is the more basic level to all such negative spiritual architectures. All negative spiritual material is such because it sits in opposition to a being’s natural passion and drives of some positive aspiration. All negative spiritual architecture actually derives its energy from the underlying positive aspiration. All negatively charged spiritual constructs are in fact composed of the energy of one’s positive drive, turned back against itself, and thus converted to the negative.

And therefore, fully successful addressing of any Stubbornly Held Protective Attitude must include both the processing of the negatively charged material that the SHPA is intended to shield the individual from and then, the positive processing, i.e., rehabilitation of the foundation of one’s positive aspiration. In fact, this is part of fully addressing and resolving of any and all negative material of any kind, not just one’s Stubbornly Held Protective Attitudes.

One more thing: The mechanics of this particular spiritual architecture have no doubt confounded counselors and therapists of all stripes because one of its characteristics is to hold in place or put back in place conditions of negative emotional character and related dysfunctions. When some personal issue appears to be resolved, and “comes back”, there is always an underlying Stubbornly Held Protective Attitude behind it, reinforcing that condition.

Godliness Technique – Try it out!

Properly done, long enough, and often enough, this technique has enormous potential to bring about increasing and more consistent levels of spiritual liberation, and the attendant increased feeling of serenity and clarity of thought.

We are constantly in a condition of painting and projecting a biased picture of the people, objects and environmental elements we come across, subsuming our ability and opportunity to see every moment as fresh and new as every moment of now inherently is.

We could be experiencing life and people in and with the natural, unspoiled, fresh, positive, joyful perspective and attitude that we as children are commonly blessed with, but for the filters and attitudes we accumulate through both externally imposed influences, and those we choose to take on for protection.

This is an exercise in mindfully returning to the operation condition of true connection, rather than automatically projecting and substituting your own accumulated internal images, with life.

The technique:

Practice this in any place where there is some opportunity to encounter some amount and variety of people, objects, environmental elements, and mindfully take these in, absolutely without any preformed, existing, or instantly/compulsively generated idea at all about these, no projected opinion or view whatsoever. Simply take it in.

Remind yourself, over and over as needed, like a mantra, “no projecting, no opinion, no filter”, or something similar, of that nature, to return to the continuing development and maintaining of that innocent, serve and joyous state, part of the intended aspiration and result being to experience and maintain that freshness, that natural state of spiritual liberation, more and more, and in more challenging moments and aspects of your daily life.

The more frequently and longer this is practiced, the more this mindfully spiritual state of existence will open up for you.

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