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“The observer affects the experiment”: Recognizing and Removing our Filters

Removing bias, so as to purely take what your spiritual compass presents from within you

Spiritual digestion is an effortless process of letting what is relevant find you. Effortlessness includes letting go of the drive to explain things or find answers. Seeking attributions for internal material becomes a distraction, and a diversion from simply letting it all clarify for you.

As explained in quantum physics, “the observer affects the experiment”. What we perceive is colored by whatever we expect to see, beliefs assumptions, and any indoctrinations about things that we come to expect become filters of how we will shape and create how and what we see. If you expect to find your inner material to conform to some preconceived notion, then that will tend to affect and bias how we will perceive that material. Through indoctrination or other inclination, your recognition of the material revealed and provided by your spiritual compass can be compromised by attaching filters of perspective and accepted narratives. And so Therapeutic Spiritual Counseling is best accomplished by projecting nothing at all, and just seeing and taking whatever comes forth. And so part of the work of Therapeutic Spiritual Counseling is to recognize, process and purify you of perceptual filters and biases.

Ultimately, all projecting, perceiving, or attributing of explanatory story, substance, shape or form of whatever condition one may be processing can be an impediment to arriving at fully digesting and resolving of any material for what it ultimately is: a formless nothing.

While we are always best served by taking exactly what our spiritual compass presents, to fully succeed in ultimate resolution, we must remain mindful of dropping out of effortlessness and putting effort into “finding” forms, “logical explanations”, etc., and if and when this happens, simply returning to recognizing that we are merely penetrating layers of created forms, on the path to finding that point of “a formless nothing”, and thus the ultimate resolution of whatever had maintained some persistent form.

We need to address to digest and resolve compulsions to attribute negative conditions to some preconceived explanation, and anything that distracts us from purely processing things simply as they are.

And more importantly, rather than having what we encounter link our minds to something with some superficially similar content, it’s so much better to be able to see every moment and situation as the unique experience that every moment could and should be, and so be fully present in the moment, and thereby much more smoothly, lightly and successfully move through life.

Any and all of the techniques of therapeutic spiritual counseling will help you to clear such hurdles and progress in your path to maintaining your presence, most directly through the technique for deconstructing your Rigid Attitudes.

The Essence of Experiencing Therapeutic Spiritual Counseling

In experiencing any technique of therapeutic spiritual counseling, there is no “work”, no effort, no digging, no pushing or pulling. The practitioner asks the question or gives the direction, is simply present with you, projecting no distracting thoughts. You let your spiritual compass deliver whatever it will in response to the question or direction, to and through you, simply be an empty vessel to be filled with the content that comes to you. Feel, without the effort of any resistance or reaction, the energies that are released through you, like drinking a cup of hot tea, and feeling the heat flow through you and dissipate. Nothing that occurs to you will be random and unrelated to the subject at hand, so don’t dismiss what you’re getting, just take what you’re getting. It will all prove relevant, as you simply take that ride. Uncomfortable feelings or sensations connected to the matter can occur and then pass, incidents and events can come to mind, one after the other, all carriers of the energies expressing as the same feelings, emotions and sensations. Simply let it flow through you, for as long as it may continue, until you no longer feel any presence of the energies of the feelings, attitudes or sensations are present. As these express and naturally spiritually digest, things will clarify, the disturbing material will no longer be, and you’ll be left with such feelings as relief, serenity, joy, enthusiasm, freedom, confidence and satisfaction.

 

The Relationship between the Rigidly Held Self-Protective Assumption (RESPA) and the Assumed Persona

The Rigidly Enforced Self-Protective Assumption (RESPA) and the Assumed Persona are related spiritual architectures, which when engaged, subsume your presence and mindfulness. Defaulting to such internal programming interferes with how you want to be, and what you are trying to accomplish. Both mechanisms can be easy to observe in others and sometimes recognizable in yourself.

A Rigidly Enforced Self-Protective Assumption is something you set in place in an attempt to shield you from some experience of overwhelming pain and/or fear, something you default to in situations that you associate with encountering such undesirable feelings. It is a very strong refusal on your part to connect with the offending subject or circumstance.

An Assumed Persona is an adopted or imposed overlay of personality, a “self” that is deferred to when you don’t feel safe or adequate in simply being present and mindful.

These constructs are related; the Assumed Persona is a type of Rigidly Enforced Self-Protective Assumption, albeit a more pervasive, more complex construct. We all have many of each of these.

From a goal-oriented perspective, both of these, when activated or triggered, override your presence and mindfulness, ultimately preventing you from being happy and succeeding.

Both the Assumed Persona and the Rigidly Enforced Self-Protective Assumption lock in a wall of energetic resistance to penetrating one’s traumatic experiences, feelings and other energies, and holds them in place, or recreates them even after they seemed to have been successfully addressed and resolved. These spiritual architectures are the reasons why you sometimes do not have lasting results from what would otherwise be successful therapeutic approaches, as both the RESPA and the Assumed Persona lock in undesirable conditions connected with them, to the point of recreating those conditions after they have been correctly and effectively deconstructed, thus turning successes into failures, and often plunging you into hopelessness about ever permanently resolving those conditions.

Through years of experience and observation, I have come to learn that the most successful and rewarding spiritual/therapeutic path is through shifting back and forth between addressing one’s traumatic material and addressing these constructs that deflect the addressing of the traumatic material.This in addition to recognizing, and focusing on one’s limitless positive drives and potentials.

These constructs have structures that have been identified, analyzed and understood. They can be found, recognized and deconstructed, through the use of appropriate, specific techniques, that myself, and others, are routinely using to permanently resolve them.

There is a specific procedure for deconstructing your RESPA’s, and there are specific procedures for deconstructing your Adopted Personae, and these procedures are part of the content of Therapeutic Spiritual Counseling.

With Love,
Dex

Book Excerpt-Your Spiritual Compass, and the Four Negative Spiritual Architectures that Compromise Your Existence

Here’s an introductory page from my forthcoming book, Honoring Your Spiritual Compass: Realizing Greater Expression of Self through the Natural Laws of Therapeutic Spiritual Counseling:

As complex as a person’s mind can seem, all of the internal confusions, disturbances and entanglements fall into one of four categories of problematic mechanisms. These are our self-created spiritual architectures, brought into our existence and maintained with the idea that these will protect us from the things that overwhelmed us in some painful way, and/or that these will get us what we want.

The way to accomplish your goals and aspirations, and to maintain yourself in the face of challenging moments is to simply be present in the moment, rather than defaulting to any programmed response or to affect some false personality. And the more you can be present, the better your existence becomes.

These will be described and explained fully further in this book, but for introductory purposes, the four negative spiritual architectures are:

Unchanging or chronic undesirable conditions
Moments of shock
Stubbornly held protective attitudes
The taking on of a false persona

For each of these for, you will find in this book a specific technique for deconstructing, resolving and removing that particular spiritual architecture:

The Resolution Technique
The Shock Release Technique
The SHPA Technique
The Persona Deconstruction and Persona Image Techniques

Each of these techniques has worked hundreds, if not thousands of times to do its job fully, in counseling sessions, given by myself and those I have trained.

For this book I have configured each technique so that it can be self-applied; you may not be as uniformly successful as a trained practitioner working with a participant, being that reading this book is not equivalent to my in-depth one on one training. How well you study and learn is a factor, and doing this yourself requires self-discipline to stay on course and follow through to a complete end result. You may not always quickly recognize when a specific negative spiritual architecture of yours has surfaced in you, and go to the appropriate technique, but the more you read over this book, and the more you apply what you read, the better you’ll get. And in any case, you will almost certainly have more than enough success, self-enlightenment and magical changes to make this a very worthwhile venture!

Social Media and “Human Nature”

This was written as material for a television program interview I have been invited to cover this topic for; it has relevance for most, if not all of us:

Any “self”, “identity”, or, if you prefer, “beingness” you take on, or find projected onto you, by definition, has its own particular set of attitudes, conditions and circumstances. And, as a personality, albeit not genuine, is nevertheless driven to protect and maintain its existence, which is done by asserting those characteristics that define it as a distinct and thus a recognizable (or safe) persona.

“Tough guy Joe” has to have the circumstances that provide the opportunity to show what a “tough guy” he is;
“Righteously Indignant Mary” must have something to present “righteous indignation” about;
“Andy the Victim” has to present the scenario of how he is being victimized;
“Aloof Intellectual Ted” will repeatedly present scenarios of how dimwitted others are, and how he is “smarter”, and “above it all”, and on and on.
The guiding behavior of each of our personae (and we all have accumulated collections of these, to be triggered or enacted accordingly toward and with the persona we are encountering) is simple:
Any persona must display the conditions and circumstances that justify its attitude and its very existence.  And thereby, any persona a person takes on, or has projected onto him, will attract, create, provoke, and/or fabricate the conditions and circumstances that define the attitude of that persona.
“Tough Guy Joe” will pick a fight, or accuse another of “starting it”; “Righteously Indignant Mary” will go out of her way to find something to be outraged about, and/or paint a false picture of someone or something to play that role; “Andy the Victim” will somehow find someone who will take advantage of him, and/or paint a false picture of that happening, and “Aloof Intellectual Ted” will display that attitude at every opportunity, real or otherwise.
And so, people, engaged in their own particular personae, will exhibit the same circumstances over and over again.
No persona exists alone, in a vacuum; every persona is half of an equation completed through interacting with another, counter-persona. And so, engaged in a persona, we will seek out someone who can be provoked to take on the role of the counter-persona, one way or another, to be cast in that role. And social media provides a target-rich environment full of prospects to fill that craving for a counter-persona to interact with. We really don’t know much about the people we meet through mutual connections or interests on social media, and so, engaged in whatever persona you are wearing, you can fill in the lack of knowledge about another person with the characteristics of the persona yours would engage with, it is easy to project them as suits there needs and purposes of the persona you are engaged in. And the multitude of personalities and attitudes expressing offers endless opportunities to trigger some persona within you who engages with the persona or attitude being expressed. And so we see how quick people in social media can be to engage in some form of combat with each other.

Within Therapeutic Spiritual Counseling, the techniques exist to help people resolve and deconstruct their personae, and thus not play this game on social media, or, for that matter, elsewhere in life. But simply understanding this can help you to be mindful of “not taking the bait”, that reacting to or in social media, and how we do, is a choice.

Dex Gelfand is an internationally recognized leader in the field of spiritually oriented counseling, with clients spanning the globe.  His time is divided between personally conducting sessions with individuals and mentoring and training other practitioners in his approach and techniques.  His approach, Therapeutic Spiritual Counseling, is based on the principle that we are all endowed with our own spiritual compass, which presents the mental/spiritual material of what we need to address, and draws on our attention to that material, the specific negative spiritual architectures we need to resolve and the practitioner’s function is to help the participant to achieve whatever he or she is intending to accomplish through the sessions.

An open letter to my Scientologist friends, on the subject of “continuity”, and the violation thereof

I have always had a passion for spirituality and for understanding and healing the mind and spirit, and like many people I’ve met and known, for a part of my life I participated in and experienced Scientology, and I became a skilled and knowledgable practitioner for a number of years, and like most others, I eventually broke from the organization, finding it to be a cult, corrupt, untrustworthy, abusive and predatory. Which is not to say that there wasn’t any value to some of the things I learned and experienced. Many times, when someone talks about the good they got out of their Scientology experience, they are speaking sincerely and factually, albeit, I could not, in my best judgment, endorse or recommend that anyone get involved, or trust the indoctrinations that shut Scientologists off from anything that might compete in the fields of therapy or spirituality, and that impose the idea that it is all to be wholly accepted, and as being the one true path to spiritual salvation.
Some time after breaking from the organization, I connected with and aligned myself with the many Scientologists who remained true believers in the practices of Scientology but disassociated from the organization, feeling that it had become corrupted and had strayed from the principles and specifics of the path laid out and mandated by L Ron Hubbard. At this time, I too believed in “the standard tech of Scientology” as the pure and ultimate solution to my spiritual quest.
However, over time, free of the oppressive supervision of the organization, thinking and examining for myself, I came to question and disagree with one thing after another, in terms of the stated principles and processes of Scientology, opened my mind to the works of many thoughtful and profound researchers in this field, including, but not limited to many who had actually contributed the principles and processes of Scientology (despite Hubbard’s claims that he alone came up with it all), and after being thrown under the bus for shining too brightly in Hubbard’s Scientology kingdom, themselves evolved better, further reaching and more workable techniques to resolve the issues of the mind and spirit.
As my own work as a truly independent practitioner continued (and continues) evolving, I found in myself a facility for seeing into the drives, issues and mechanics of the mind and spirit in new and profound ways, enabling me to be more successful than ever before in successfully guiding my participants to accomplish whatever it is that they arrive in front of me hoping and intending to accomplish, in terms of their goals, for mind and spirit. In my current perspective, Scientology was one of the stepping stones along my continuing path. Questioning, and exerting my intellectual freedom to see through and beyond that matrix has yielded exciting discoveries and recognitions.
Many of my participants are former Scientologists like me, who have been inspired by my videos and articles to reconnect with their drives for better personal conditions and spiritual self-realization.
My Scientologist friends have expressed mixed reactions to my “violating the points of Keeping Scientology Working”; I’m very appreciative of those who have been laudatory, supportive and encouraging, thankful for those who remain faithful to “the old ways” but also remain friends of mine, and I’m understanding of those who took a hostile attitude toward me, as there was a time when I myself was that far back on the learning curve, and had experienced that mind-trap for myself, where hostility toward any “suppressive persons” diverging from “the tech” was a major point of the indoctrination. They are free to have their say, as am I.

I have to admit, I was momentarily taken aback a bit when a delighted current participant of mine commented “I don’t understand why all these Scientologists say that there is no continuity to your approach”; I had no idea that such talk existed, apparently by several people. I would have thought that such Scientologists, priding themselves on their asserted superior communication skills, would have engaged directly with me rather than merely about me.
And most importantly, it gave me pause that anybody would have difficulty grasping the continuity inherent in following along the path that the individual’s mind is presenting. There can be no more perfect continuity than that! And of course the substantial multitude of gratefully expressed emphatic testimonials on my website speaks volumes for the logic of my approach.

More to the point, I would like to directly address that subject of continuity in sessions, very simply. Continuity IS extremely important in counseling sessions; without it, abrupt shifts of subject material will be jarring and confusing for the participant, as well as disappointing and frustrating.

We participate in sessions with a practitioner because we have specific items or issues we feel a need or desire to address, accomplish, release, and/or resolve. We bring these up as they come to mind. And as I have stated many times, there is only one valid function for any practitioner, and that is to facilitate the accomplishing of the participant’s goals and purposes for being there and participating. Your mind, when free of having any misdirection imposed on it, will always volunteer and present exactly what needs to be spiritually digested in order to accomplish and/or resolve whatever is opposing your goals and purposes; this is a function of what I call your spiritual compass, and as long as we allow this to present, and follow through on that path, we have a perfect continuity, and the very successful results that you see people talking about in their testimonials on my website.

Scientologists, your founder L. Ron Hubbard corroborated this approach in stating that Scientology auditing must “parallel the mind”; he also said to “Audit the PC in front of you”, which means, not some projected generic case, but that individual, manifesting what he or she is manifesting, in that moment.

But then, Hubbard dictated a pro forma sequence of techniques addressing specific items (“processes”) grouped in sequential “levels”, known in Scientology as “the grade chart”, aka “the bridge”, that each individual was to go through in identical order. It was claimed to be the generic sequence of mental and spiritual advancement that was best for everyone. This violated “paralleling the mind”, as the material addressed was all dictated from a generic script, and not from the individual participant, and so as well violated “auditing the PC in front of you”.

But as it is in the indoctrination of every Scientologist, it became established in the minds of Scientologists as a “continuity”. People do tend to default to an established pattern when not knowing what to do, and many find the idea of concrete “levels’ of advancement (and assumed superiority over others “less advanced”) very attractive, to serve as markers of (supposed) advancement.

But, while it is not unusual for Scientologist to experience moments of release, enlightenment or improvement at some spots on the “bridge”, in the long run, that violating of true, natural, individual continuity makes for a very time and money-consuming failure to actually accomplish those things that interested and drove the participant there in the first place. (And yes, as we all know, for many who became involved with the organization, it was a horror story, but that is largely a separate subject, and not the point here).

And thus, the many participants I’ve had who had first experienced all or most of the Scientology “bridge” and then came to me and then expressed how they “finally achieved what I got into Scientology for”, as testified to on my website. Accomplished through honoring your spiritual compass, that is, taking what your mind presents in the moment and addressing that with good techniques- in other words, staying with the true and natural continuity of your mind.
Love, Dex

The Repeating Life Patterns of the Persona: Why People Exhibit the Same Circumstances and Conditions Over and Over Again

As frequently happens, when a person becomes engaged in enacting a particular persona, a trap is set in motion. Any “self”, “identity”, or, if you prefer, “beingness” you take on, or find projected onto you, by definition, has its own particular set of attitudes, conditions and circumstances. And, as a synthesis of a genuine personality, is driven to protect and maintain its existence, which is done by asserting those characteristics that define it as a distinct and thus recognizable persona.
“Tough guy Joe” has to have the circumstances that provide the opportunity to show what a “tough guy” he is; “Righteously Indignant Mary” must have something to present “righteous indignation” about; “Andy the Victim” has to present the scenario of how he is being victimized; “Aloof Intellectual Ted” will repeatedly present scenarios of how dimwitted others are, and how he is “smarter”, and “above it all”, and on and on.
The guiding behavior of each of our personae (and we all have accumulated collections of these, to be triggered or enacted accordingly toward and with the persona we are encountering) is simple:
Any persona must display the conditions and circumstances that justify its attitude and its very existence.
And thereby, any persona a person takes on, or has projected onto him, will attract, create, provoke, and/or fabricate the conditions and circumstances that define the attitude of that persona.
“Tough Guy Joe” will pick a fight, or accuse another of “starting it”; “Righteously Indignant Mary” will go out of her way to find something to be outraged about, and/or paint a false picture of someone or something to play that role; “Andy the Victim” will somehow find someone who will take advantage of him, and/or paint a false picture of that happening, and “Aloof Intellectual Ted” will display that attitude at every opportunity, real or otherwise.
And so, people, engaged in their own particular personae, will exhibit the same circumstances over and over again.
Within Therapeutic Spiritual Counseling, the techniques exist to deconstruct our personae, and so become present, genuine and unencumbered of repeating life patterns.

Changing Your Life Patterns

The key to dissolving your patterns of ongoing interacting “game” or relationship conditions of undesirable feelings, attitudes and interactions is to allow within you the flows of every role in the game, including having both enacted and experienced the actions of every role, and allowing the energies of the attitudes and feelings of all perspectives effortlessly, to present and digest within you. As this is done, blame and guilt drop away and become meaningless, and fully done the game/condition pattern is no more.
With love, Dex

“I invite you this second, this moment to embrace unconditional love”

I would like to share the following with you:

“I invite you this second, this moment to embrace unconditional love. Unconditional love is a love that is greater than your issues,greater than your luggage and baggage and illusions. Love does away with distance and separation. Love turns all the flags of the world into a river of colors. Love is the light that is inside all of us, everyone. I salute the light that you are and that is inside your heart. I salute you”
Carlos Santana, “The Universal Tone, Bringing My Story To Light”

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