There’s nothing more gratifying than succeeding at what you are passionate about, especially when that passion is about making a difference for others! So this statement today from an appreciative client makes my day:
“You have helped me a great deal and this has been the most beneficial therapy I’ve ever received.”
— Alex H
April 16, 2018
A.H. had participated in other session modalities with other practitioners, but apparently nothing he’d done before had prepared him for our session today:
“That persona I’d been wrapped up in had felt originally like a heavy suit of armor-this is really cool! Empowering! I have a sense of control!
This is all new, I really feel like I’m being freed from something that has kept me inactive for years, the biggest relief is that I don’t have to put on any more performances, I’m good enough to be myself, that’s more than enough—I’ve never admitted that to myself, ever! Being able to admit that is such a big step for me, its so freeing!
Dex, you kick ass!”
April 13, 2018
When counseling sessions are conducted completely through connecting and in accordance with the participant’s own spiritual compass, all things are possible.
Caesar has experienced a variety of approaches with experienced practitioners, in search of actualizing his own vision of how he should be, free of unwanted impulses, tendencies and feelings. After today’s session, Caesar contacted me to share how he feels now:
“This session was wonderful. Thank you very much. I am about to celebrate my new life.”
— Caesar Alarcon
March 30, 2018
“What is fascinating to me is the way I now can visualize the energy coming and going and dissipating into tiny particles that no longer have power over me”
TC just experienced his first session of Therapeutic Spiritual Counseling, in which we addressed a moment of shock that had stayed with him, pervading his mood and consciousness ever, since he experienced that disturbing traumatic occasion:
“Dex, I’m doing well. For about five hours after the session I felt like I was high! It was astounding. Also, it taught me how to better deal with these emotions when they come up, and what is fascinating to me is the way I now can visualize the energy coming and going and dissipating into tiny particles that no longer have power over me.
I definitely want more sessions, thank you!”
I just gave a free introductory session to a man who had contacted me through my website. His issue was a strong one, of having had friends and loved ones abandoned him for what they considered to be a transgression, in their way of thinking. It was painful for him.
We ran one the technique that I use to address unwanted conditions. As we continued through the process, we arrived at a point where, well, I’ll use his words from here:
“I feel really good right now!”…”I didn’t think this was even possible!” … ”Thank you so much, Dex!”
You’re very welcome, my new friend; that’s what I do.
Here’s a short collection of testimonials that will be included in my upcoming book:
“Life is a journey. I believe that life is all about creating, and that creating has no limits or boundaries. I believe that a being is capable of achieving anything he truly wants. Unfortunately, my observation has been that the ability to create has come to a screeching halt for many, and that many of us live in darkness. I’ve known and observed the adherents of numerous religions, and experienced several of these for myself. It seems to me that people tend to follow the leading voice of a religion and find comfort and security in being told what to do, and that few of us stand up and think for ourselves.
I’m saying these things here to share my reality, and my experiences and observations with all; I’ve never been one to blindly accept, uninspected, the things I was told by my parents, friends or churches. I wanted something more. I always wanted to explore my abilities and the possibilities in my life; really, I just wanted to create for myself a better state of being, and come to understand who I am.
Not too long ago, I began experiencing sessions with Dex, and quickly I fell in love with the fact that I was getting a ton of changes and improvements. Problems that I had addressed in sessions with others suddenly began disappearing, my raging anger and anxiety lessening greatly; I mean, I am getting quick results here, guys!”
“I’m working with Dexter, and I have to say that I’ve had some pretty amazing results in the past few weeks alone. A lot of it doesn’t describe well, but I can definitely say my affinity for life is definitely greater, and with my family it’s been very significant. I’m much more comfortable in my environment.”
“It was hard to find words directly after a session, it had to settle a bit. I found some decisions I made that I shouldn’t have. More thoughts are emerging, and more grief is dropping away. I found I have to change things. I realized that I had been suicidal for years, I remembered driving, and wishing the car would fall over the cliff, this has been ‘underneath’ in my mind for a while. Now I’m feeling better. Not so hopeless. I had been too depressed, with a terrible feeling of hopelessness.
It’s all starting to pull together. I will keep writing these things down, as more things are rolling off. After a session, I just wanted to run next door to the park and take a walk. Today I walked for hours. The sky looked different today, actually the earth felt different under my feet!
Thank you, Dex!”
I wanted you to know that our session on Friday was more powerful than I expected. I have had sessions with others before, but with you it was like going from crawling to flying. I remember such sessions being a very tedious long and tiresome process, however in our session it was like we were going full throttle. It was a great experience.
Thank you, Dex”
New York, USA
“I no longer worry about the future. I know everything will be alright.I feel a lot more clean and ethical.I am a lot more patient.
In terms of my physical health, I for the most part handled the condition that I wanted to handle which is severe heartburn after pretty much everything I ate.
And I continue to have new realizations between sessions.
Thank you very much for all your work, Dexter!”
“Hi Dex I just have to tell you that technique that you used with me in the last session was just what the Dr ordered. I used to have flashbacks about relationships with people where I thought I could have done better. These flashbacks would happen 15 to 20 times through out the day. Almost anything would trigger a thought and my face would actually wince with regret. Although I tried to hide the wince when others were around the thoughts still would just crash in on me. After running that process I have noticed today and yesterday a percolation as you call it and the thoughts are not around as much. Its great not to have those moments around. I don’t know how you knew to run that technique with me because, the wincing issue didn’t even come up in the initial interview. You must be psychic! Anyway, thanks for a great session! You rock!!!!”
“I’ve never experienced anything like this. After articulating my great changes, Dexter did this special process, which enables you to keep and magnify your gains. You align your wins to what you’re actually trying to do in your life. In my case, I’m a writer, musician, singer and composer.
I’m powerful person, and so is everybody else. I saw how the misuse of your unlimited power as a spiritual being to manipulate or seduce or destroy is terribly destructive not only to others, but to yourself. Karma, or whatever you want to call it. Whatever you put out there, good or bad, will come back to you.
Any kind of unwanted sensations, etc., can be traced back to times when you used your power to harm. I don’t think I’ll ever do that again. I feel energized, I can’t wait to create. Knowing my unlimited power, I will use it for good. I will have fun. I will postulate into existence whatever it is I want to do because it will be good. It will not harm. And, it will include others who are of the same mindset.
Thanks so much to my wonderful councilor, Dexter. I don’t think I’ve ever been this stable before.”
“With Dex as my councilor, the results I came to experience ranged from subtle to bold, but they all shared the quality of becoming transformative to my life.
To firstly detail my own path, I have always been curious about philosophies, religion and all things spiritual and ethereal. Eventually I encountered a presence online by the name of Dex. Through his writings and videos I felt an urge to get in contact and talk with him directly. From our first conversation I could tell we were two individuals who were of the same spirit, and who held similar motivations to search for our own truths.
In our first interactions Dex took his time getting to know me. Asking about my experiences I was surprised to hear him asking many general questions leading to the personal, the purpose in which to construct a complete picture of who I was. The time came when he asked if I was ready to do an interview to open about some painful experiences and memories (more aptly those which I felt still held impact and influence on my life). Approaching this time I held a small fear that I was about to open up to someone in the traditional sense that I did not know for that long. However, I cannot put into words the amount of comfort and trust I felt with Dex from very early on. This is one of his natural abilities. To make someone feel completely at ease no matter what they are facing.
Soon another challenge arose – I was going to do this via a medium which a large part of me felt was somewhat impersonal by default – via an online video link on Skype. Time passed, and the interview was completed. I felt like I had just released some of my most personal truths to a new friend, and in doing so became to feel more space develop within myself. I began to confront and digest the difficult and traumatic experiences and feelings I needed to summon courage to face. In my first session I was able to face and let go aspects of my life which had held me captive for years. No other therapy had been able to penetrate to the heart of the problem, or more accurately guide me to face those barriers with confidence.
It appealed to me appealed to me from the beginning that Dex’s philosophy is that it is an active process engaged in together between the councilor and the individual, who needs to be a participant in his or her healing in order for benefit and progress be made. I agree with this idea, and I have felt the benefits of this mindset engaging in session after session. The results it achieves are nothing short of amazing.
There remains one quality that became apparent to me as being the catalyst for change within myself. It has been solely responsible for enabling positive transformation to occur. That is the relationship that I have come to have with Dex as another human being. Through laughter and the encouragement to confront challenges Dex remained by my side undeterred. Seeing me at my most vulnerable he never backed down and remained by my side all the way. Because of this even after a short, but intensive period of time I consider Dex a good friend. One in the beginning I didn’t think I would ever meet.
In conclusion, I hope the words I have constructed above provide a small insight into the benefits that can be achieved through undertaking auditing, in particular with Dex as the choice to lead you towards fulfilling your goals for personal growth.
No longer are fears limiting my growth – they are instead nourishing it becoming a source of learning. I am eternally grateful for the experiences I have shared in.”
“One thing that I now have is that I have the feeling that I can make it in life. Although I am not totally there yet, I would say that just knowing that I can cope and handle whatever comes my way is a big stabilizing feeling. For the longest time I have been being quite “conservative” with life. Afraid to really stick my neck out there, as if I might get “hit” somehow. Now I am much more willing to stand out and be counted. To let others know who I am and what I stand for. I can better hold my position, because I am doing it as me, not some or other identity or persona. It is a really good feeling inside to know that I am not always wrong and if I am, I can correct it. I don’t need to beat myself up about it anymore. I am also able to let others be right.
There is a very interesting benefit that I have never gotten from sessions with anyone else. That is that I now feel that I have much more of an understanding of life and me, that I have never had before. I am not quite sure exactly what that is all about, but will say that my certainty of life and who I really am is much greater. I am OK with being me. I am sure that I am walking taller and with more certainty that I have in a long time. I feel like I am recovering my personal integrity. WOW! That is huge.
Unlike all of my previous session experiences with other councilors, with Dex I felt like I was actually taking the lead-“running my session.”
I recognized that I have built barriers up around me, in order to somehow protect myself from something, but inevitably, it has acted to limit my success in life and business. This is an extremely interesting revelation. I have never seen this before. But now I see that I have been limiting and actually stopping my own success. Sort of like, “the solution to a problem has now become the problem.” Guess I just need to find the original problem, huh?
I think the big win here is that I am actually discovering who I really am and the “armor” that I have surrounded myself in is being peeled away. A chunk here and a chunk there. What is interesting is that even a day after the latest session I can still feel that “armor” falling to the wayside, little bits at a time. I am sure more will be falling away tomorrow.
I am totally certain that I am now on the right track to where I want to arrive.”
Thanks again for last night’s session. I can’t thank you enough for the session, its awe inspiring, your ability to alleviate a being’s suffering, as you have done for me in just one session. You are worth every dollar. You are an amazing person. Thank you for making my day extraordinary in so many ways. And thank you for helping me to finally relieve my massive anxiety in last night’s session.”
“I just had the pleasure of another session with Dex. You never know what is going to come up! I had a traumatic incident that had been ruining my life for decades. I touched on it several times in earlier sessions with other councilors, but now, the full incident has finally been erased in a single session. My next session was cool, it helped me with my arthritis, I was blown away after the session! The arthritis is not bothering me at all, Wow,I feel great!”
New York, USA
“Dexter, 2010 was a year of problems for me. Since my last session from you, now it doesn’t trouble me at all. This is amazing. I had been addressing that time of my life with other councilors for years. At last I’ve experienced major relief in this area of my life, after just one session with you. Since last nights session, my vision is brighter much sharper and can’t believe this, I can actually watch TV without needing to resort to my glasses. That’s fantastic. What a relief. I’m very happy about this!”
My overall sessions results (about 18 sessions):
It should be clear at the start to be accepting of full responsibility for your condition regardless of performance of the counselor. This not saying one should be everything right and accepting of everything wrong… it is saying if something goes wrong, to avoid the impulses to find outside yourself a point to blame (ownership of the actions) without keeping most of that closer to yourself. Find and know the strength of forgiving (both self and others). Have a willingness to experience anything. Gains are faster this way because the auditor and you are less burdened by times where the guidance time is over spent sorting out in discussion or action what points of blame are whose. More time can go to getting you to where you want to be.
There is a wonderful confidence in the guidance provided by Dex. His understandings grown from the basics in application through to the highest states sought by man are clearly within his grasp. Not held to rigid techniques he lays available to him and his participants any best technique to the condition at hand. This in itself saves hundreds of hours and potentially gets you to a place where you can handle areas of life others can only pray for… and gets you there quickly.
My desired sessions outcome was to be able to do better (or more controlled) prediction. This had a subset or easily noticed attending condition of conflicted self trust.
We handled the self conflict aspects which in normal life is a lifetime’s sought value.
Then we handled the broader trust factor… this was not an only in my mind thing. To handle this area required finding spaces of reality which were being avoided (having already handled spaces of my mind which were being avoided). There came a communication with reality which I haven’t allowed for ages and ages. Areas of knowing which I have long preferred not to know… preferred not to know because I could or would do nothing about them and did not want to know the suffering in those spaces. When inspecting the considerations for why the not knowing, I was allowed to work out how to access these spaces without the attending constantly created suffering (created by others in those spaces of reality). Source of this seemed to work out to be trust. See I have concluded persons suffering is opinionated disagreement usually of another person or persons. But if I side with the suffering person then I am siding against the other(s)… my temporary fix for this was to postulate best to avoid those spaces of reality as there is no way to be right. But this limits one’s ability to expand awareness which in turn limits ones control and limits ones knowingness… so instances of guessing about reality become usual as one attempts an understanding of life. It is difficult to understand life if one avoids so much of the knowingness about life. This led basically to impractical predicting (attempts at knowing) when most of the data to be known is guessed at (because the data to be known is of spaces avoided).
And then there were spaces which I felt not welcomed to. Areas where others who “owned” those spaces would take offense to my being there. This limited my awareness sphere too.
Basically those two things, the suffering and the unwelcomeness were limiting my ability to know and thereby understand. When I worked out the way, it came down to trust. The suffering were results of their living and understanding and participating in this life game. I now trust myself with respect to them because I could also be with the ones being blamed (the blamed ones are both themselves and the others). I found a way where I can be the “right one” and the “wrong one”. This requires an ability to experience being wrong.
I found trust in the performance of not assuming any purpose of either of them… suffering itself can be a kind of trap and at some point one might enter suffering just to find out how or why suffering comes to be and maybe come to know how to “solve” it. This is actually interference in life and commits one to keep attention in the area (enforcedly) as a method to followup and continue handling (interfering) on behalf of one side (the suffering)… basically just another game… created from a postulated purpose and postulated purposes.
Sideline to those two achievements was the attempts at postulating conditions which reality would not conform to. This poses me as opposition to reality. I had to find a way to allow for reality yet maintain a hope and reality of improving conditions. This brought me to an understanding regarding force. I came to see conditions come to be. If taking or being a limited space for view, it can seem real that forces exist.
But reality is.
It is not that reality was and is and will be… it is only that reality is. When finding this I found a kind of divinity or divinity. Reality is as it desires to be. And is perfect in its form. Forces can not affect this. However desires can. Sharing your desires with reality and finding or granting reality to assume those desires seems a correct approach to changing conditions. As much as you can be reality you can assume those desires. Developing a state of being where your space is (you are) reality is an ongoing process for me.
Having learned not to attend purposes (generated by self or others) I recognize a trust in myself and others that I will not enforcedly affect their game(s). Now I am free to be aware of all spaces and potentially be all spaces. Potentially assume creation of all spaces. Being fully trusted I can be even those spaces normally set as unwelcomed.
Of course seeking or having some ability or willingness to have a willingness to experience anything, is of a rather critical value. This was being worked on since long before Dex and I came to work together.
Being able to experience the condition of being wrong is important in the handling of one’s own mind areas. These newly shown wrongnesses Dex and I did work on and a comfort concerning how to exist though wrong came to be more easily experienceable. Right and wrong are opinions or assignments to one side or the other(s) in the game.
Helping this process is an observation that all good and all bad are opinions concerning each or the other. This is critical to find an understanding about.
Holding to opinions has a locking effect. A limiting effect. Freeing self of opinions (attitudes) allows for a releasing to be everything. To be anything. To know and feel the experience of a more divine state. Working with Dex was point critical for this.
So, while at an improved state now the full scope of the gains are yet to be validated through real world responses over much time… but so far these are coming in. Already we have the state of no self conflict. We have the state of full trust in self and others… probably especially full trust in reality. We have capability to be all things all places.
Pretty good so far!
Only working with Dex could this group of achievements have been achieved. His determination for expression of truth over the objections of persons who have countered his preference for truth in his earlier years of having to defend his “altered” techniques is the only way I could have come this far.
Courage with a love for truth a respect for truth and a love for his fellow man (woman included) clearly demonstrating a love for himself as those beings is a clear attribute of Dex.
Thank you Dex!
— Chris D.
I am still powerfully feeling the effects of our session yesterday. That realization I had, I still have chills. I know I can do what I set out to do now.
Thank you Dex. You are amazing and I wish everyone in the world could work with you.
Why I reached out for help: To come to be able to trust me.
In the fairly few sessions with Dex we have resolved, handled, eliminated, illuminated, blew, understood, became responsible for, came into control of, and are a full knowingness regarding self conflict. There is no longer a self in conflict. There is me- just me.
To write more relating to this might act as a limiting thing… and could be an infinite word set.
Thank you, Dex!
— Chris D
AD has been a regular participant for over a year, she’s had great and needed changes, and she’s been remarking on how thankful she is that she could have sessions over Skype, how much better this works than to have to be in the physical presence of someone when she needs not to feel self-conscious at all about what she needs to express:
I want to share my experience of working over Skype. I’ve been working with Dex for over a year and, for many reasons, he’s by far the best counselor I’ve ever worked with. An integral part of the success of our therapeutic relationship, though, is simply due to the fact that it does not happen in person. I didn’t realize how much I’d struggled doing therapy in person until I started working with Dex; just how self conscious I felt when I had to deal with the very real presence of a person with needs of their own. I could never really relax, I could never really cry if I had to, etc. etc. because, well, there was someone sat a few feet away looking at me! And I was always in a space that was not my own. A space designed to be therapeutic but not necessarily in line with my needs.
I can express whatever I want, however I need, without having to worry about traveling after something’s shifted, without having to invest any energy into managing the reality that there’s a physical presence expressing its own energies close by. So much pressure! I always felt I had to be a good patient in some way, to show the therapist that I was transforming in front of them, that I was all ready to go by the end of the session. It was impossible for me to make progress. Working over Skype, I can choose whatever is best for me and it’s fine, it’s functional, it’s great. If I feel I can better express something if I’m not being observed, I just turn the camera away. Easy peasy! I was unsure at first working over Skype, but very quickly it became the obviously best way for me to work. And to speak to another concern I had about working over Skype: I’ve never felt worried that Dex isn’t present because he always is. Thank you, Dex!