With any polarizing subject, you run into attitude presented as thought process, but it is merely attitude. For someone to be offended by you saying something good happened for you, that is pure attitude. No actual conscious thought process. I’ve been in a perfect position to evaluate and analyze the positives and negatives, and intentions behind the vast amount of techniques, principles and rules woven into the variegated quilt that is misleadingly presented as being a complete and organized system called “Scientology”. There is good, there is bad, there is ugly. But if we are going to be honest with ourselves, and own all that we engage in and bring upon ourselves so that we can work towards being whole, then we will recognize that everything we’ve experienced is part of the road that brought us to where we are now. My clients often remark on having “wasted” 100’s of thousand$ on Scientology, when they could have been much more successfully accomplishing their needs and desires elsewhere, as one participant told me today. But he could also acknowledge that, while overhyped, largely disappointing and far too expensive, there were some changes to appreciate, albeit, “being sold a bicycle that was promoted as being a Ferrari” (and priced like a small kingdom ). Refusing to acknowledge the good things, just like refusing to acknowledge bad things, IS a form of denial, which is, ultimately, a denial of self, and thus, in part, a refusal of one’s own soul.
I cannot, and don’t advocate for or defend the activities of the “Church of Scientology”, or any form of submission to or overall approval of what it offers. But it is part of my journey, and that of many others, and it should be ok to accept, acknowledge and express the good, as well as the bad, and the ugly, and have it understood that doing so is not an endorsement of the overall package, or anything at all beyond whatever might be specified as having been of some positive value. Friends don’t support or encourage friends to fall into the trap that is the “Church” of Scientology, but there should be no stigma attached to honesty about one’s experiences.
— Love, Dex
Over the course of my life and work, I’ve observed a spiritual element that holds us back, that witholds permission to have our dreams materialize, to be too big, too powerful, to rise too high. There’s a part of us that says that we don’t deserve it, or that we will abuse it and in someway harm others. There is a part of ourselves that is afraid to ask for too much, the part that says “I could never be, or have, something that great”. I believe this to be the ultimate barrier to self-realization.
I believe that ultimately it’s about finding our way to forgive, trust and love ourselves, and not being afraid to give ourselves permission to live our dreams.
I think that is the thing that we need to be introspective about, and reason our way through.
I have seen these feelings come to light, and I have helped others to transcend these self-imposed restraints and barriers.
This is a subject for therapeutic spiritual counseling, and I can help.
— Love, Dex
A bad experience, if you will allow it to be and occur within you however it does, and process it and let it digest, can be an opportunity to grow and become happier and more capable. I mean this in a very practical sense, and not merely as an abstract platitude.
This is the essence of my Therapeutic Spiritual Counseling approach. My participants can attest that not only has this worked to diminish and resolve emotional pain and anguish in our sessions, but that they learn through this to successfully practice this perfectly simple technique in their daily lives.
I invite you to contact me and learn and experience this for yourself.
With love, Dex
There is a nature preserve that I have always enjoyed experiencing, going back to my youth; in walking through there, I found that I could sense the consciousness in all the life around me, and its placid awareness of me. Today, in re-experiencing that connectedness in that place, the following occurred for me, in a natural flow of recognition that sharpened my awareness of exactly what my own purpose in life is:
There are so many cultures and religions, and people, and groups that impress upon other people their ideas of the connections with the spiritual world, and or God, cosmology, and such subjects as the interconnectedness and relationship of all life. All of these carry with them the heavy encumbrance of indoctrination and the subsuming of the precious joy of self realization of such things. Maybe if I keep going as I have, and just help people to unburden themselves of their own self created spiritual architectures, then maybe they can find the peaceful space from which to observe and connect with such essentials of coexistence on their own, and regain all the peace, joy and serenity that is inherent in that endeavor.
— Love, Dex
April 23, 2018
I think that its important to consciously have and connect with our essential, broad aspirations. They can serve to inspire, as a driving, motivating passion that carries you forward. One of mine:
“I may never be as God-like as I aspire to be, but I will never stop aspiring in that direction.”
With love, Dex
There’s nothing more gratifying than succeeding at what you are passionate about, especially when that passion is about making a difference for others! So this statement today from an appreciative client makes my day:
“You have helped me a great deal and this has been the most beneficial therapy I’ve ever received.”
— Alex H
April 16, 2018
The greatest and truest power, and perhaps the greatest satisfaction, is in granting power to another person.
“Granting power” does not mean to transfer one’s own power to another. That’s actually a very disempowering and condescending concept-“you haven’t much power, here, take some of my power, I’m a powerful source, your personal power is derived from mine, and so I’m above you, and with that understood, you can be a mini-me”.
Granting personal power is the expressed recognition of the innate power within another, and the encouragement for another to recognize and accept their own considerable personal power.
Don’t neglect or deny your own personal power, and help others to recognize and accept their own personal power, and everybody wins.
This is also as essential to conducting a good counseling session as it is to relating to others in any other situation.
In the past year or so, in working with my participants (I prefer the term “participants” to “clients”, I think it is more accurate and descriptive), in seeing, feeling and experiencing the energies of their minds, as well as my own, I have come to a breakthrough recognition:
Anger is an attempt to suppress or overcome fear.
This is very meaningful to recognize. An angry person is desperately trying to stave off some underlying fear in relation to whatever they are emoting anger about. This has much practical application, both in life situations and in therapeutic counseling. I have shared this with others, usually having it understood and well received, if not necessarily with the same excitement or enthusiasm this discovery has for me, as someone keenly interested in always gaining a deeper understanding of the mind and spirit, and applying it to help spiritually liberate others.
But what inspired me to share this enlightenment broadly at this time, is that just now, for the first time, I have seen where another person expressed having realized the same thing; a very spiritual individual, a great musician, none other than Carlos Santana.
I’ve just begun reading Carlos’ autobiography, “The Universal Tone, Bringing my Story to Light”, and in the introduction, he shares this:
“Before, I did not know that anger is just fear with a mask. Now I know that, and I have to move on.” How beautiful, and how true; and how wonderful it is to find a spiritual kinship with such a great spirit!
I’m sure there have to be other enlightened people in the world who have come to recognize this pervasive truth, but I find it striking after all this time, to finally find someone else has recognized the same thing, and to come across it this way.
Essentially, when we experience something undesirable, we tend to identify ourselves by the condition that impacts us. We take the bad condition on as a unique thing that we have, and we become the particular person with that particular condition – it becomes our identity, that which distinguishes us from others. We also tend to feel that, in having whatever such problems, that it makes us less than everyone else, not realizing that everyone else struggles with the same assumption.
The therapeutic “magic” of spiritual counseling is in the counselor’s taking in all that the participant is feeling and expressing, so as to really take in the depth of the particular energies that have become embedded in the participant, and conveying that this is taking place. With this occurring, the experience and energies, having been taken in by the practitioner, are no longer uniquely the property of the participant, and so no longer serve as a means of distinct identification for the participant, thus releasing and freeing the participant from that material.
In short, when the practitioner successfully brings the participant to experience and then express the painful energy to the counselor, and the counselor then fully and observably takes it in, it is then recognized that the undesirable condition is no longer a unique and defining quality of the participant, and it is thereby released, and the participant, typically, is released, rejuvenated, and happy. Because accomplishing a spiritual liberation from chronic painful material is what the participant is here to accomplish!
The official policy that is the essence of the Scientology doctrine
“There Is No Expedient to which a Man Will Not Resort to Avoid the Real Labor of Thinking.”
– Prominent 18th century English painter Joshua Reynolds
I read that quote in 1964, hanging in Thomas Edison’s West Orange, New Jersey lab during a 3rd grade class trip, and it is a key piece of wisdom that has stayed with me ever since. I think that it is particularly relevant in discussing and examining any controversial, polarizing subject, which people tend to resort to absolutes of acceptance or rejection, lazily framing something as being one-dimensional, so as not to have to invest thought in any actual examining.
Politics is one such subject, particularly at this time; “Scientology” is another. I have had my own passage through Scientology, having dedicatedly mastered and practiced much of Scientology’s “auditing” system and paradigm of counseling principles and techniques for several years. Over time, my perspective evolved, and brought me out of the strictures of the “Standard Tech Scientologist” mindset. My own conclusions are that there is so much of value in many of the principles and techniques that it isn’t wise or correct to dismiss the entire subject, and too much that is misleading and potentially damaging to accept it as it is presented and taught by its faithful adherents; in short, like any other system or paradigm, we are best served by separately examining each individual idea within it on its own individual merits, as we ourselves find them to be. My own approach, while being different from Scientology, nevertheless does incorporate those elements thereof that I find compatible with empowerment through better connecting with your own spiritual compass to accomplish your own goals, and omitting those elements that would have a person surrender or attribute self-knowledge, power or ability to any external source.
Those who have been wholly accepting or wholly rejecting of “Scientology” tend to have a viscerally hostile reaction to anything less than complete support for their own absolutist attitude, but there is also the chance for these folks, as well as the rest of us, to gain a more enlightened perspective, in accordance with the principle articulated above by Joshua Reynolds.
Interestingly, a great many of my own clients/participants in my Therapeutic Spiritual Counseling practice have been people who experienced most or all of Scientology’s “Bridge”, feel that there was much value in that experience for them, and at the same time were frustrated by the unfulfilled promises of Scientology and moved over to my approach to address and accomplish those frustrated aspirations.
It is my hope and intention to help those extreme views on the subject to accomplish a more rational and enlightened perspective, as well as to inform those who are curious about this controversial paradigm.
In 1965, L Ron Hubbard, founder of Scientology, was, overall, a very angry man. A number of constituents, feeling stifled under the thumb of his autocratic rule, had spun off their own directions, their own formulaic approaches to spiritually therapeutic techniques under their own banners, attracting followers, cutting into the “Church” of Scientology’s income streams, and transferring loyalties away from Hubbard. Less than a year earlier, Hubbard, grossly overestimating his considerable ability to enthrall people, made a number of obviously hyperbolic claims about himself and Scientology to a journalist writing an article for the Saturday Evening Post magazine, resulting in a broadly published article that, to Hubbard’s shock and dismay, was anything but flattering, using his own words to ridicule him in a national magazine. He was accustomed to being idolized in his own world of Scientology followers, and anticipated similar success with the rest of the world, apparently. So this was one, but hardly the only, point in Hubbard’s life in which he was, to put it delicately, in a sore mood.
It was in this state of mind that Hubbard issued “Keeping Scientology Working”, a “Hubbard Communications Office Policy Letter” imposing a condition on his followers and supporters of absolute submission to his every word, projecting himself as above all others and never to be questioned, but only strictly followed, asserting that to do otherwise was foolish, evil, and/or stupid. And that Scientology, and Scientology alone, was the only hope for a world that was headed straight to oblivion, and/or hell, without it; that nothing and nobody else was of any real value in this desperate crusade to salvage mankind, to wit:
“The whole agonized future of this planet, every man, woman and child on it, and your own destiny for the next endless trillions of years depend on what you do here and now with and in Scientology.”
There is an indoctrination process embedded into the “Keeping Scientology Working” manifesto that breeds hostility and resentment toward approaching the subject open-mindedly- in fact, Hubbard redefined “open-mindedness” for Scientology followers as an insidious disease, as some sort of opposition to “heroic self sacrificing unreasonable single-minded dedication the THE cause”- oh, and “reasonableness” is also redefined similarly. Inherent in “Keeping Scientology Working” is the subliminal mantra, “a good and true Scientologist cannot be reasoned with”. These are imposed concepts that, in my opinion, need to be re-examined by Scientologists. An actual insidious disease would be an implanted hostile resistance to examining the various elements of Scientology (or, for that matter, anything else) with an open-minded and unbiased attitude.
(more to follow)