Honoring your Spiritual Compass: Realizing Greater Expression of Self through the Recognition, Acceptance and Application of the Natural Laws of Therapeutic Spiritual Counseling, a Book by Dexter Gelfand
For several years, I have been developing and accumulating material to be published in book form, and now that I’m nearing the finish line, I’d like to share with you my current draft of the introduction:
Welcome to my realized vision, Therapeutic Spiritual Counseling. I hope you’ll find it interesting, enlightening and useful. The basic premise: We all have our individual goals as people and spiritual beings, all of our problems are basically our own internal oppositions and obstacles to our goals, and these can be understood and dismantled to achieve greater success and states of existence.
This book consists of three sections. In the first section, “The Spiritual Architectures of Our Minds”, I articulate my observations on our various self-created mental mechanisms and their workings.
Section 2, “My Philosophical Approach to Therapeutic Spiritual Counseling”, outlines what I have found to be the essential principles of effectively counseling others so as to empower, and to liberate the negative mental and spiritual architectures that hold us down.
In the third section, “Techniques of Therapeutic Spiritual Counseling”, I will share with you with the techniques I’ve developed to effectively facilitate the accomplishing of the relief, restoration to greater functionality, empowerment and well being that we all seek.
As with everything in life, the techniques of Therapeutic Spiritual Counseling will always be a work in progress. I believe that everything in life can be a work in progress, and there is always room for improvement, such as new discoveries that improve both the efficiency and the range of what is possible to achieve. While there is no such thing as perfection in any field of endeavor, we can always aspire to and work in that direction. Thus the techniques in the third section are subject to new discoveries and improvements, which should take nothing away from how these techniques routinely achieve results for people that they only hoped would be possible.
You’ll find concepts in this book that will resonate with you; I believe that it is very important, with any paradigm or body of information, that we judge each individual idea on its own merits, as we individually see them. Any imposed or preconceived idea that all of the information is to be either wholly accepted or wholly rejected is, at best, lazy thinking, and is no way to honestly learn. To quote Sir Joshua Reynolds, an influential eighteenth-century English painter, “There is no expedient to which a man will not resort to avoid the real labor of thinking.” We would all be well advised to bear this in mind when reading anything of interest. That being said, thank you for your interest in this book and the subject of Therapeutic Spiritual Counseling. Take what you will from what share here, and enjoy the journey!
— With love,
The struggle to overcome the collection of personae within us is timeless and universal. We are all affected by the dysfunction inherent in this human condition, and to the degree that it can be transcended, self-realization and the accomplishment of all we aspire to becomes within our reach.
False “Me” deconstruction can be very rewardingly and effectively used when chronic inappropriate and/or undesirable attitudes are evident. The more experienced and perceptive the practitioner, the more obvious and frequent the manifestations of identities become.
Anytime the participant has completed processing some condition or traumatic incident, they can and should be asked if there is some persona they took on through encountering and experiencing that incident or condition. More often than not, the answer will be “Yes”, and a persona that has been dominating much of the client’s presence, attitude and behavior will now be available for processing and resolution. The resultant restoration of self through this procedure are of such magnitude that it falls upon the processor’s shoulders to avail the client of these gains at every opportunity.
This procedure includes some previously extant elements developed by earlier people in the field, such as the late Alan Walter, however, augmented and reworked so as to address related spiritual/mental material that was beyond the scope of what was being addressed. I consider this procedure as essential and indispensable. The results tend to be spectacular, and nearly every client I’ve used this procedure with on the first time through has remarked, verbatim or very close to it. “I can’t wait to see what my life is going to be like now!”
The procedure is best applied by an experienced practitioner familiar with my approach to therapeutic spiritual counseling, but will likely yield impressive spiritual liberation and the attendant changes if applied with patience, confidence, and passion by anyone who is so inclined. Besides providing this service as part of my own Therapeutic Spiritual Counseling, I do offer a mentoring service for any and all aspiring or experienced practitioners.
Today the following question was posed to me:
“What are the conditions required to progress in a spiritual manner with your methodology?
My answer: The conditions are that you have the interest and drive for your own spiritual goals, and be willing to experience what your spiritual compass delivers, without resistance.
— Love, Dex
Recounting traumatic experiences is but one vehicle of many for anyone in counseling to accept, assimilate, digest, process and be relieved of the pain, shock, distress, trauma, and fear impressed into the experience.
More essentially than the narrative, the story and the details of any such experience is the particular frequency and character of the energies embedded in that time passage, which is experienced as the particular feelings and sensations therein. All disturbing feelings and sensations are energies that are so difficult to experience that we react by resisting absorbing the energy.
Resisting doesn’t allow the pain, trauma, shock, and fear to ever be digested and processed, and so instead it will carry forward, along with your effort to push it back. Resistance may be a natural tendency, but it isn’t a true solution. The problem only persists, never goes away.
To get relief, those disturbing energies must be successfully allowed to pass through, be passively and effortlessly absorbed, and thus be digested, at which point the pain and trauma are disintegrated.
There can be any number of ways to accomplish this. What is best for you is whatever means provide for the accepting, absorbing and digesting of the actual energies, experienced as feelings and sensations, themselves. Recounting the experiences that have those feelings embedded in them, through any number of means, is one path, but asking for experiences and stories is less direct than directly opening up to those energies, the feelings and sensations themselves, directly, as these will be found and contained in many related experiences; and it is the energies themselves that are the essence.
— Love, Dex
Your negative spiritual architectures are the mechanisms that replicate over and over and hold in place the pain and the fear and the dark attitudes.
Negative spiritual architectures can be deconstructed, through recognition, examination, and re-evaluation. They can be deactivated and discarded through the specific techniques of Therapeutic Spiritual Counseling.
Through the application of the appropriate simple procedure, these mechanisms give way, as you mindfully recognize how and why you came to bring each negative spiritual into being, how they are a failed and harmful attempt to protect from something (that can now be resolved in your Therapeutic Spiritual Counseling session), and thus make the conscious decision to let it go.
— With love, Dex
As a therapeutic spiritual counselor, life coach, psychotherapist, mind healer, therapist, EST/Forum/Landmark, Scientology/Dianetics, meditation instructor, etc, there is only one legitimate purpose and function:
To facilitate the accomplishing of the participant’s desires and expectations of the changes they are there for.
It is not appropriate or substantially beneficial for the conductor of any betterment endeavor to have as their mission the forwarding of any other agenda, no matter how invested he or she may be in some particular group, system, belief, guru, leader or god.
It is not appropriate or substantially beneficial for the conductor of any betterment endeavor to have as their mission the traversing of some system of steps or levels to some proscribed form of enlightenment, or the forwarding of some agenda to recruit or assimilate the world into such a program.
The conductor of any betterment endeavor should purely have their “eye on the prize”, and purely envision the prize as the participant’s happiness and sense of satisfaction in accomplishing the participant’s desires and expectations of the changes they are there for, and be focused, not on how well the participant is adhering to the expectations or strictures of some paradigm or system.
If the conductor of any self-betterment endeavor is working through the filter of a system in which they are indoctrinated to follow to conform to some uniform organizational or religious structure and purpose, then they aren’t truly present for and with the participant, or dedicated to providing the participants what they are hoping and expecting to accomplish.
The session and the work should be for you. And not at all to reinforce or further the practitioner’s, beliefs, convictions or agenda.
— Love, Dex
Personal experience had made it clear to me some time ago that telepathy is a fact, but until recently I didn’t put much thought into how to help people to develop their own such abilities. Now I’m putting my observations to the test in piloting such a technique, and there are clear signs of success, as this work in progress continues.
I will share some observations here, some of which may (or may not) be obvious to you:
(1) Telepathy, more commonly, is naturally strongest between people who are in good rapport or harmony with each other, people who are very close.
(2) One reason there is little success when attempting to prove or demonstrate such abilities (although I have both had and observed such success) is that when someone has a hostile attitude about it, they tend to put out an opposing energy that can deflect the necessary harmony.
(3) Thoughts, or the presence of a consciousness, is a far more subtle manifestation than normal light and sound, and can be difficult or impossible to notice or be sensitive to in the presence of such environmental stimulation. Just as if you walk into a relatively dark room from outdoor sunshine, it can take some time for your eyes to adjust to be sensitive enough to see well, it can take some time in a quiet, nondistracting environment to notice things as relatively subtle as thoughts and consciousnesses.
(4) Consciousnesses are easier to perceive than thoughts; a rough analogy might be to how sun rays of are less intense than looking at the sun itself.
(5) One key to developing one’s own natural telepathic abilities can be successfully giving oneself permission to have such abilities; it can take any amount of processing of one’s own particular mental/emotional/spiritual architectures to make such skills accessible, or more accessible.
If you would like to participate in sessions for this purpose, I am now accepting clients. Stay tuned for further developments!
— Love, Dex
What is a “Moment of Positive Shock”? It is when something extremely good happens, but your internal reaction is to feel overwhelmed, and have some difficulty calmly accepting that it is “real” and can be trusted; “too good to be true”.
I first discovered it some time back, noticed its intensity, and its quality of being as overwhelming as a conventional negative shock. But until now, that was all that was revealed to me, and it just wasn’t enough to comment on, from a spiritual/therapeutic perspective.
It didn’t quite resonate perfectly with me that the Positive Shock should pack such an energy wallop. And now, and I mean just now, I have come to understand why:
The “Positive Shock” relates to the material of some corresponding earlier conventional negative moment of shock; it restores something that the earlier negative shock blasted out of reality for the individual.
In doing so, it does not, or at least not necessarily, wipe the spiritual slate clean of the negative shock; in fact, it energizes some residue of the earlier negative shock.
It does cause a resonant feeling of instability to manifest, in fact, and this may be the most interesting, and important point of all:
It is your own massive energetic resistance, once set in place, to recognizing and accepting the reality of whatever the shocking event is that later manifests as the inability to accept (i.e., the automatic, mechanical unacceptance of) the good reality of the positive shock!
My conclusion, at this time, is that when such a positive shock occurs, I, as a practitioner, would ask for and get the earlier negative shock and guide the participant to fully process the negative shock, with my particular shock handling technique, and then bring the participant fully up to having the extreme positive condition (the material of the positive shock) with my Positive Processing technique.
It also occurs to me that the Positive Shock must be a not uncommon occurrence; it simply hasn’t been recognized, at least not broadly, for what it is.
Just as with any shock handling, the relief and positive changes that follow are HUGE.
Chances are good that in reading this now, you are recognizing a positive shock of your own. If so, you know how to find me. I suggest that you not waste any time. You NEED this
— Love, Dex
With any polarizing subject, you run into attitude presented as thought process, but it is merely attitude. For someone to be offended by you saying something good happened for you, that is pure attitude. No actual conscious thought process. I’ve been in a perfect position to evaluate and analyze the positives and negatives, and intentions behind the vast amount of techniques, principles and rules woven into the variegated quilt that is misleadingly presented as being a complete and organized system called “Scientology”. There is good, there is bad, there is ugly. But if we are going to be honest with ourselves, and own all that we engage in and bring upon ourselves so that we can work towards being whole, then we will recognize that everything we’ve experienced is part of the road that brought us to where we are now. My clients often remark on having “wasted” 100’s of thousand$ on Scientology, when they could have been much more successfully accomplishing their needs and desires elsewhere, as one participant told me today. But he could also acknowledge that, while overhyped, largely disappointing and far too expensive, there were some changes to appreciate, albeit, “being sold a bicycle that was promoted as being a Ferrari” (and priced like a small kingdom ). Refusing to acknowledge the good things, just like refusing to acknowledge bad things, IS a form of denial, which is, ultimately, a denial of self, and thus, in part, a refusal of one’s own soul.
I cannot, and don’t advocate for or defend the activities of the “Church of Scientology”, or any form of submission to or overall approval of what it offers. But it is part of my journey, and that of many others, and it should be ok to accept, acknowledge and express the good, as well as the bad, and the ugly, and have it understood that doing so is not an endorsement of the overall package, or anything at all beyond whatever might be specified as having been of some positive value. Friends don’t support or encourage friends to fall into the trap that is the “Church” of Scientology, but there should be no stigma attached to honesty about one’s experiences.
— Love, Dex
Over the course of my life and work, I’ve observed a spiritual element that holds us back, that witholds permission to have our dreams materialize, to be too big, too powerful, to rise too high. There’s a part of us that says that we don’t deserve it, or that we will abuse it and in someway harm others. There is a part of ourselves that is afraid to ask for too much, the part that says “I could never be, or have, something that great”. I believe this to be the ultimate barrier to self-realization.
I believe that ultimately it’s about finding our way to forgive, trust and love ourselves, and not being afraid to give ourselves permission to live our dreams.
I think that is the thing that we need to be introspective about, and reason our way through.
I have seen these feelings come to light, and I have helped others to transcend these self-imposed restraints and barriers.
This is a subject for therapeutic spiritual counseling, and I can help.
— Love, Dex