“Real life” is the opportunity for the challenges we create to be experienced by us. Processing makes it easier to find the perspective to observe and make decisions to uncreate the games that have proven or turned undesirable, and to create and energize the better and more worthwhile games. There is fun to be had in life!
Be as you choose to create yourself. People will always cast their impression of you, good, bad or indifferent, onto you, that is what “relating to others” is, along with presenting an impression of oneself to others. Identities are not something natural and hard-wired into us, they are what we decide we are, regardless of whether it comes from our own envisioning of self or from another; in truth, these are changeable, and only as “permanent” as we make or accept them. It can be light, and fun, when consciously being who or what you enjoy being, and it can be a cement casing when it is otherwise. We are often far too susceptible to the impressions of ourselves cast onto us by others, and likewise, we can be far too careless in adopting impressions of others, and casting these onto them. There is an expression, “granting beingness” — this doesn’t mean to cast your idea of another onto them, even if it is meant or thought to be complimentary; it means to grant to others that they are as great as they conceive themselves to be, in whatever attributes, qualities, abilities and aspects. Regard yourself entirely as you envision yourself, and grant the same to others; it may well be impossible to do this all the time, but it is something to work toward, and aspire to. Allow yourself to soar to those great heights you do know to be where you belong, and allow the same to others. You don’t need anyone else’s envisionment, good or bad, of you, and the same is true for others; we all need to be accepted and supported, and thereby, accepting, and supportive, and we’ll all get along better!
How interesting to reflect, as my mother just reminded me today, that back in 9th grade, when I was 14 years old, I took an aptitude test in high school, and out of 200 categories, according to the test results, #’s 1 and 2 highest aptitudes for me were “minister” and “psychiatrist.” And here I am, almost 50 years later, carving my own path, on my own terms, a “Therapeutic Spiritual Counselor,” a melding of those two concepts!
For several years I participated as a featured speaker at yearly “Freezone” conventions, held for those people with Scientology-related interests. Having been a highly trained and experienced practitioner of Scientology counseling has been a significant life experience for me, and played a part in my continued and continuing growth and evolution as a therapeutic spiritual counselor, and there have been elements that I have found useful and beneficial, especially since I’ve been disengaged from the strictures of that paradigm, and able to freely re-examine, and change as I see fit to better align with my own vision of how best to help others to accomplish their own particular goals and purposes, as opposed to those of any authoritarian group or organization.
I must apologize in advance for not having filtered out all the Scientologese lingo, but please do feel free to contact me to clear up any questions or confusions.
I have reworded much of what I said to better communicate, and to compensate for the substandard audio quality of the video of my talk. I have broken it down into sections, of which this is part one. You can watch the video of the full talk on the “Videos” page of this website.
Dex: Hi, guys, can you hear me OK, in every spot? First of all, Trey (to Trey Lotz)-I’m just thinking about what you were saying about being exterior versus in the body, you know. What do you think of the idea that occupying space within the body and occupying space outside of the body are not necessarily mutually exclusive?
Trey Lotz: You are probably doing both..sure.
Dex: I think sometimes all the talk about interior versus exterior (spiritually, in relation to being inside or outside one’s body) can bring about a condition of living that dichotomy, being restimulated (triggered) by being either one or the other…
I’ve got a million things I could talk about, I don’t come with a particular plan- very much like the way I conduct a session [laugh]..Well, “GPM’s” (“Goals Problems Mass”, a term meant to encompass the basis and ramifications of all things that trouble us spiritually and emotionally- continue reading for more-DG) has very much been a subject of discussion today with all the enlightening information first from Rolf (Rolf Dane) and Heidrun (Heidrun Beer) and then with Trey, so I think I’ll give you my spin on that. You know, I’m finding that at this point that you can learn just as much if not more from just been present with your client, with your PC in session observing what’s happening, you know. I’ve made some interesting observations I haven’t seen written anywhere before. Anyway, one thing would be the whole idea of perception versus creation, as being two separate things. I’ve been convinced… three, I guess I realized that about five or six years ago, that creation and perception are really two different sides of the same coin. They cannot be separate from each other. I like to use a word envision or envisionment, because that’s where these two concepts come together. And it’s very true for me anyway, that you experience what you create and the way you experience things is your way that you are creating them for them to be experienced by you. Which is why two people can experience the same thing very differently.
And as to the subject of “GPM’s” at this point, as I am processing these daily, if you’re doing any negative case gain processing at all, some part of that is what you are addressing. So, anyway, the way I see it at this point, there are three basic elements to GPMs, and most of the earlier approaches that I’ve seen, they had a hole in focusing on two of the three, not necessarily the same two. The way I see it – the three components of what Hubbard called “GPM’s,” what Alan Walter called “Games Matrix”, what Enid Vien called “Games Sphere”, which, I kind of like that way (of saying it).. Anyway, -you have identities, you have purposes, and you’ve got the exchanges of energy, or the energetic interactions between identities, forwarding their purposes. One way you can define identity, I’ve never seen it defined these ways, but an identity could be defined as the embodiment of a particular purpose, an identity is created and experienced to forward a particular purpose. That’s the basis of an identity.
You know, you never stop learning, if you want to. In our last convention, Trey, you and I both learned some interesting things from each other, which immediately we found we were applying, and saying, “Hey, that’s pretty cool!”, you know, and what I picked up from you- I’m very experienced and involved in the processing of identities (Using some technique to, in greater or lesser degree, free you of one of your “identities” prefabricated “personas” that are triggered in you when you encounter certain people and situations. A common condition, in which everything- how you feel, how you see things, your attitude and reactions- are all filtered through then triggered “persona” that is currently engaged for you-DG) — I happen to use my own enhanced and modified version of Alan Walter’s Presence Three, which is really, really great; I became aware of one particular hole in that… It is really wonderful, Presence Three, even just in it’s original form. What amazed me, is that every single person I processed on that form of identity processing, or more than 98% of them would say, and most commonly, in these exact words: “I can’t wait to see what my life is going to be like now”, – that’s pretty amazing! You know, I’ve learned more things as I went along, but… Last year Trey was talking about the subject of GPM’s and identities and he brought up something that- Wow, I can’t believe I missed that before, Alan missed that too, but — the relation between purposes and identities…
I just added this right in where I felt it belonged on the sequence of steps of Presence Three Identity Handling-Its the question of, “What has your purpose been for creating and maintaining that identity?” You know? Because if you don’t nail that purpose and re-examine that purpose in everything- you know, in all the negative gain processing, sometimes a process, in my opinion, it doesn’t go deep enough, you process away this thing, but if you don’t process away the condition, or the tendency and/or the attraction to creating that thing in the first place, it will re-manifest in same or similar form.
Here’s something you can do, or guide another to do, call it a spiritual exercise, a consciousness technique, or process, that will definitely have a pleasing and beneficial effect:
Look all around and notice the now-ness of everything.
“Now-ness” is simply the quality of existing in this present moment.
Do it while walking slowly, at whatever pace best allows you to fully take in everything around you, outside for maximum effect, and you can keep doing it for as long as you like, and stop to turn around and look in all directions. It cannot be overrun. It will bring you out of whatever your mind has had you in, it will sharpen your perceptions, it will reinforce your sense of existing as a spiritual being, it will put you in a very pleasant state, and the more frequently it is done, the more it will raise your general consciousness.
After much conjecture and research, I’ve recently come to a conclusion about this. Firstly refer to the havingness scale in the book Scientology 0-8. Above sensations is goals. Initially, in any universe, there are pleasant sensations attached to goals and the accomplishing of any goal. The prime pleasant sensation is simply admiration, from self, from others, from whoever, anyone and everyone. Essentially, the satisfaction of accomplishing any goal is itself a form of admiration, both giving and receiving. Going down the spiral, as with the dwindling spiral of any GPM, goals are opposed, thwarted, modified, failed. One can then descend into seeking a substitute havingness, i.e., the pleasurable sensation that would accompany the actual accomplishing of the original goal; in other words, the experiencing of the sensation connected to the original goal becomes, itself, a substitute goal. From there, descending into a downward spiral of oppositions, the less desirable sensations connected to those in turn become the substitute substitute (not a typo) goals, and so we create and experience, eventually, the full range of sensations. (Please note that while in the terms of Goals Processing from the early 1960’s, “pain” was found to be associated with the terminals, or beingnesses we ourselves dramatized, and “sensations” were found to be associated with the opposing terminals, but here, as I am using the term “sensations”, I mean for it to include every feeling one can experience physically, emotionally and/or spiritually).
I think this story of devotion to accomplishing one’s goal in terms of artistic expression is very much in line with what we are all seeking spiritually, and we can all appreciate and draw inspiration from this:
The inspiring story behind the image: Sonny Rollins had already earned recognition as one of the elite jazz musicians. But he felt a yearning in his soul for a deeper and greater level of musicianship and musical expression that he felt was within him and not achieved. And so, at a time when he was riding high in the music scene, he shut down and closed the door on public performances and recording, to “woodshed”, that is to practice and hone his skills, and more fully find his voice. For five years, he’d walk out halfway across the Williamsburg Bridge in Brooklyn, and blow, over the water, taking in the purity of his sound, and finding that voice. Only after he was satisfied did he resume his career, even more successful than before. His first album upon re-entering the performing world was simply entitled, “The Bridge”.
How to Help the Client, to Draw Out All that Needs to be Spiritually Digested and thus Processed to Release and Resolution
Be an empty vessel, create a vacuum to be filled with the client’s world. Generate nothing, present nothing, in recognition of the fact of “nature abhors a vacuum”, and thus invite and attract all that needs to be drawn forth from the client, effortlessly and without any attitude, other than love and acceptance.
Past lives are often a subject of interest and curiosity- “Are past lives real?” I can give you my answer, but what you really need is your own answer, and confidence in that answer. What we don’t need is anyone pushing his answer, be it yes or no, on you. There is a wealth of evidence of the existence of past lives, mostly made available by people wishing to enlighten others, or enlist them to agree, so as to help the source of such information to gain a little more confidence in the idea through approval or agreement from others, and the same can be said of those who deny or “debunk” the existence of past lives. Seek to find your own answer, and be truthful with yourself about whatever degree of confidence you have in your answer. It can be helpful to take what you will from what others have to say, but don’t betray yourself by allowing another to impose their conviction on you, rather than simply offering what they feel for as food for thought. There can be pervasive consequences to buying wholesale and investing yourself in any entire pre-packaged paradigm or system of belief, rather than separately considering those elements that resonate with you, and this elements that produce cognitive dissonance when assimilated.
Bear in mind the following.
“There is no expedient to which a man will not resort to avoid the real labor of thinking.”-
Credited to Sir Joshua Reynolds, an influential eighteenth-century English painter, specializing in portraits, I first came across this quote on a third grade class trip to Thomas Edison’s laboratory in West Orange, New Jersey, where Edison had it displayed on a poster as a reminder and inspiration. I know it has inspired and stayed with me ever since.
Past live experiences and identities come up not infrequently for my clients in our therapeutic spiritual counseling sessions, although I never suggest them, or ask or direct a client to “look for something earlier”, as I consider imposing suggestion to be a blight when the objectives include empowerment and greater self-trust for the client.
I’ve had past involvement in paradigms in which there was a great deal of “information” imposed to be accepted about past lives, and what is to be found in them. I’ve seen how that created certain expectations, worrying for those who didn’t find that material for themselves, how it became an instrument to be asserted to create impressions of “higher” spiritual status, and how finding such material, insidiously, frequently could be incepted and substituted as a driven goal to be sought through endless paid counseling sessions, burying over and denying the individual’s own particular spiritual interests and aspirations. It has gone so far as to name many “universal past life incidents” that we’ve supposedly all experienced, presented as “essential to be found in order to achieve higher spiritual states and recovery of self”.
It is not uncommon for some of us with spiritual interests, and a need or desire to be seen by others in an admirable light to assert being a “high spirit”, an “old soul”, etc. I don’t mean to assert that anyone isn’t as they think of or present themselves, only that any part in that assertion that anyone else is any less than them serves as an example of how spirituality and/or the subject of having had past lives can be misused, and thus can degrade the subject.
Having thousands of hours spent providing therapeutic spiritual counseling with hundreds of clients, I will share some experiential observations here:
In my view the RELEVANCE of past life recollections is what is really important, and there are 2 main ways in which these can be valuable:
(1) When you are seeking confirmation that you are a spiritual being, and not merely a physical life form;
(2) When you are seeking relief or release of some kind from some undesirable condition, and accomplishing this through identifying some past life experience which, until it is uncovered and consciously digested, continues to impose that condition, and is released once the past life experience is found and processed.
Often, when someone encounters past life experiences, they can remain skeptical that the experience is “real”, and, often, but not always, the more such experiences emerge, the more confidence you’ll develop in them. I believe that one thing that can hamper one’s own trust in these is having had the ideas of such things imposed from an external source, which actually can lead to finding what has been presented as to be expected to be found, thus violating objectivity, and thus leaving a feeling of doubt. In cults or groups in which such concepts are pushed, with the resultant feeling of peer pressure, it can be quite relieving to safely express that one actually has some doubts about the past life images and experiences that have occurred for them, and can sometimes help a person to accept them, contradictory as that may seem.
Despite, in some circles, the pushing of the idea that “the earlier back in time, and the more fantastic the past life experiences recalled, the greater value to one’s spiritual growth”, what I have seen over the many, many sessions I’ve conducted, and continue to conduct, is that almost always, with only occasional exceptions, the most impactful life experiences, which when discovered and consciously processed result in the most powerful and pervasive life-changing relief, and restore joy, serenity, feelings of well-being and a sense that life is wonderful, are those life experiences that happened early in this life, or late in the lifetime just before this one.
“Everybody has the right to be an audience with their own God-self”
What a wonderful place to be, and at the same time, a wonderful way to express something that is my purpose and desire for all my clients to realize. Thank YOU Cathryn!