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“Dex”I hope that what you read here helps to settle whatever confusions you may have on these topics. If not, please ask me questions through the “Contact” page, and I’ll do my best to help!
Take my answers for what they are: simply my views, based on my experience and observation. Take these into consideration, and form your own conclusions. It is very much against my philosophy for anyone to impose their views on others; rather, I believe a person should offer whatever they would like to share, and grant for others to take from that whatever they will.
We all need to be on our guard, alert to any tendency to substitute another’s thinking for our own. Deferring your own reasoning to that of another is no path to enlightenment. Being open to considering any and all ideas opens the door to great opportunities for new and better understanding of all things. In the words of 18th century English artist Joshua Reynolds, “There is no expedient to which a man will not go to avoid the labor of thinking.”
Love, Dex

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How is a session with you, if at all, like a Scientology auditing session? How is a session with you unlike a Scientology auditing session?

Dex: As with a Scientology “auditing session”, the length of time of the session is not pre-set. Generally the session ends when some resolution of the subject or subjects being addressed has been reached.

Unlike in a Scientology session, there’s no “E-Meter” in between us to serve as as the ultimate authority of what is happening with you, and what action to take. There are simply, and only, direct interchanges between you and me.(See the question on this page, “What is the “E-meter”..?)

There are some principles in common, such as recognizing undesirable feelings and attitudes as forms of what could be called “negatively charged 3-dimensional mental film recordings of overwhelming incidents, resulting in unconscious automatic perceptions, attitudes, feelings and sensations”, and the principle of resolving these through gaining consciousness of such material.

In my sessions, we address whatever is barking at you right now, and my only purpose and function is to help you to accomplish those things that you hope and/or intend to resolve and achieve.I’ve written a plan tailored to you for the session, but it is as flexible as it needs to be to stay on track with what is manifesting in you or for you here and now. In standard Scientology practice, there is no improvising; there is a very long, uniform “grade chart” programmed sequence of processes for every client to be run through.

In standard Scientology, “intensive auditing” is the rule, meaning that auditors and their clients are pushed to spend long hours in sessions day after consecutive day, pushing the idea that rate or degree of progress is equivalent to the amount of time spent in sessions, and that progress is best made by having as little time as possible between sessions. This also means that much more money is used up in much less time. In my approach, sessions on consecutive days is rarely going to be best for the individual, because, when a session is run to meaningful, life-changing realizations and releases from unwanted conditions, such changes commonly continue to unfold and reverberate for days, and while it may be more profitable for the counselor to push the client immediately onto the next process, and right back into the next session day after day, it will tend to interrupt, “step on” and prevent the full flowering of the changes already being experienced. And so, with me, a client will typically have 2 sessions in a week, with days in between, and we are careful to end for the day any time something meaningful enough to need time to fully unfold occurs.
In sessions with me, you are encouraged, in fact expected to allow any “answer”, idea, image or feeling that presents itself to fully emerge, whether or not at first it seems relevant, or seems not to be what is asked for. Years, and thousands of hours of experience have proven that such thoughts, permitted to fully emerge to be experienced and voiced, always turn out to be relevant, and to answer the question asked.

The standard Scientology auditor, through his “TR’s” (“Training Routines”), is trained to evaluate and dismiss those responses that seem irrelevant to him, with the phrase “I’ll repeat the auditing command”, which, unfortunately, indoctrinates Scientologists to suppress and dismiss their own material as “random” and “a waste of the auditor’s time”. Many of my clients, after sessions with me, come to realize that they had been indoctrinated to “be a good preclear” and to behave in such a way as to “please or satisfy the auditor”, and so, not feeling free to go to where their own spiritual compass is leading them in response to what has been asked for.

A “standard” conventional Scientology practitioner will not accept anyone for treatment who is taking or has a history of having taken medications for anxiety, depression and/or other mental/emotional conditions. This is also applied to other prescription medications, and even common over the counter items such as aspirin, ibuprofen and other similar things. Part of the policies are to label you “illegal” to receive the counseling for such “transgressions”.

Anyone relying on such medications is doing so out of a need to find relief and stability, and I would not turn someone away for that; I think that it would be most unkind to do so. It is well known that such medications can be dangerous and debilitating in the long term, and nobody wants to be or feel dependent on such things, but sometimes its the best immediate solution one has, at least until true relief and recovery is found, and that’s where I come in. I can work with those in need to help them to recover from the conditions for which they are taking or may have taken medications to find stable relief, and to wean off anti-depressants and/or anti-anxiety medications safely and successfully, including, as needed, working in tandem with the doctor or mental health professional authorizing the prescriptions so as to incorporate his or her expertise and advice for a gradual decreasing and eventual eliminating of the medications as the underlying condition is being relieved through therapeutic spiritual counseling sessions.

 

 

You make mention of Scientology (R) in relation to your own approach. How would you describe Scientology?

Dex: “Scientology”, depending on the context, could refer to the counseling techniques and principles developed and/or practiced that are connected with the term, or the organization that calls itself “The Church of Scientology ® “, or both. Those more familiar tend to distinguish between the two, and those less familiar tend to lump the two together as though they are all one subject.

(A) Techniques and Principles related to Scientology:

There are many techniques for addressing unwanted conditions, desired states and goals many of us seek. These can be very effective.
The original principles of Scientology were evolved in the early 1950’s, as expressed in the book, “The Phoenix Lectures”, which articulates the most basic principle of enlightenment and resolution of all that is undesirable, “Abandon the use of force”. The organization known as “The Church of Scientology” discontinued publication of the book The Phoenix Lectures; for decades, it has been out of print.

(B) The organization that calls itself “The Church of Scientology”

The organization incorporated as a church around 1954. L. Ron Hubbard, from this time until approximately 30 years later, when he became ill and passed away, held absolute authority, and over time, increasingly forcefully. Hubbard wrote thousands of policy letters defining such things as the structure of the organizations, the duties of each position, the exact procedure for executing every function, the terms for being accepted as a worker and as a customer or participant, and penalties for infractions.
1965 was a critical time for the evolution of the organizations, as Hubbard issued a very emphatic and forceful policy as the basis and mantra of all Scientologists who wanted to remain acceptable to the organization, “Keeping Scientology Working”. In this strident and angry manifesto, Hubbard declared that he alone had developed every technique and principle in use by the organization; this was not true, in fact quite a few capable people participated in developing the techniques and principles that came to be “The Grade Chart”, or “The Bridge”, a sequence of techniques, grouped in ascending steps (“Levels”). “Keeping Scientology Working” articulates Hubbard’s “10 commandments” for Scientologists, imposing the “necessity” of dedicating oneself to totally perfectly assimilating all of, and only Hubbard’s instructions, “hammering out of existence” any independent “new ideas”. Followers are exhorted to be uncompromising, and to be completely intolerant of “squirrels” (those not in total compliance). Eventually, the other substantial contributors were maligned and discredited by Hubbard and driven away.

It is also true that at times Hubbard demonstrated admirable qualities. At his best he was a remarkable person. I have friends and acquaintances who personally observed and experienced this.

How was it that Hubbard demonstrated such extremes of attitude and behavior? Well, nobody is as “all bad’ or “all good” as they might appear, and when you combine such extreme power as Hubbard came to wield over his flock, and thus the loss of external restraint, with extreme fame or visibility, you get some interesting extremes of attitude. Many of us could speculate beyond that, but for our purposes here, this is an actual man, not a simple fictional character, and our focus is on the organization, and so his impact on it bears mentioning.

The first thing one must understand about “Scientologists” as defined by Hubbard is that they have agreed to conform with the attitudes of “Keeping Scientology Working”. This forceful attitude characterized the direction the organization has increasingly taken over the decades.

Also in 1965, Hubbard published a list of the characteristics of “Suppressive Persons”, basically enemies to be opposed and/or eliminated, a list of “ethics penalties” and increasingly characterized more and more people, organizations and governments as “enemies of mankind” (enemies of Scientology).

The world of the Church of Scientology has been ruled by David Miscavige since approximately 1981. He has given himself the title of “COB” (“Chairman of the Board”), and that is how he insists on being referred to. He rules with an iron fist, and under his authority, there is much brutality toward Scientology staff and anyone critical of him or the organization who gets his attention, fees for services continue to increase dramatically, and the Church of Scientology’s practice of enforced disconnection is in more use than ever, both as a threat against anyone who is in any way disobedient, and as a practice.

Although the organization so transparently denies it, disconnection is their policy of ordering adherents to shut out of their lives completely anyone they know, including their friends, their parents, their children and divorcing their husband or wife. Those who come to be so indoctrinated as to accept the threat “You will lose your eternity forever” if they are denied acceptance by the “Church of Scientology” are pressured with this threat themselves if they refuse to disconnect, as ordered by the organization, from anyone that becomes regarded as unfriendly to the organization.

At one time, in the 1970’s there may have actually been as many as hundreds of thousands of participants involved with the organization. Today despite absurd claims of “millions”, between defections and expulsions, the actual amount of people actively participating with the “Church of Scientology” is probably less than 10,000. (For more detail, see “The Story of ‘The Church of Scientology’ ” on the ‘Articles’ page of this website)

Perhaps it can best be summed up this way:

The original basis of Scientology-related techniques includes the principle of “Abandon the use of force”.

The organization calling itself “The Church of Scientology” is pervaded by the use of force.

Love, Dex.

What is the “E-meter”, what does it do, what purpose does it serve? Is it necessary for the sessions? How does it function?

Dex: Power Processing Using EmeterThe “E-meter” is a device often used by Scientologists as a means of verifying or determining a client’s reactions, and/or what course of action to take in sessions. It generates and passes a very slight, generally unnoticeable current through the client and back into the meter, and measures how much current returned in completing the circuit, which means that it shows how much resistance (in electrical terms, “ohms”) the current encountered in passing through and back. As a session progresses, it will show relative changes in that resistance. In conventional “standard” Scientology, this is accomplished by having the client hold, in each hand, a specially designed can connected with insulated wires to the meter, through which the current passes from the meter, to the client through a can held in one hand, and back to the meter through the can held in the other hand. The cans transmit the current.

The changes in electrical resistance measured by the meter reflect emergence, presence, and diminishing of material that comes to mind in the session. The meter is intended to help the counselor (“auditor”) to know what is happening with the client.

It might be said that the meter is of value to the degree that what is happening with the client is not otherwise going to be noticed by the counselor. But then, there is the factor of debilitating or limiting what the counselor might otherwise find the ability to directly perceive, through the “crutch” of depending on the device, and the inescapable fact of the counselor dividing his attention between the meter and the client, and most importantly, there is the factor of debilitating the client, through the tacit assertion that “the meter knows me better then me, and is more trustworthy than what I think is happening within me, or what is really important for me to address in my sessions”.

While I have had very thorough training, and many years of experience, having mastered the use of the e-meter, ultimately I’ve concluded that, generally, the drawbacks outweigh the supposed advantages of interposing such a device between you and me.

I conducted a research project, involving clients I had been counseling with the use of the meter, and then, continuing with my same general techniques and processing approach, with each client’s acceptance, engaged in a series of sessions without the meter, and thus the only variable was whether or not the meter was used. Each and every client expressed feeling that the sessions were better, more effective and meaningful, without involving the meter.

Here is the testimony of one such client:

“I’ve been auditing with Dex for several months now. And it’s been going very well. The last several sessions, we decided to stop using the meter. As a result, I’ve noticed a few changes.
For one thing, any pressure that was there because of the e-meter – like wondering if something read, or if my needle floated, or if I was getting adequate tone arm action – has fallen away. And because now all the indicators about how I’m doing come directly from me, I feel more comfortable telling Dex how I’m doing in my sessions, and I don’t have to worry about the meter agreeing with how I feel. Actually, I didn’t even realize I had a little worry about that until we took the meter out of the equation.
The sessions using the meter were going well, but they’re going even better now. In my last few sessions, everything we’re addressing is exactly something I’d hoped to handle when I first got in Scientology in 1989. What a refreshing experience!”
S.O., April 2015

And so, generally speaking I no longer conduct counseling sessions in which any device sits in between my client and me, although if there should be a client who isn’t comfortable enough without the presence of the e-meter, then I would accommodate that client for as long as he or she feels that strongly about it.

Are you a Scientologist? Or perhaps an “Independent Scientologist”?

Dex: That, in the minds of some, is a loaded question!

According to the words of L. Ron Hubbard, a “Scientologist” is, a person who wholly subscribes to the entire output of L Ron Hubbard regarding Scientology, including his descriptions of what the identity, character and behavior of a “Scientologist” is. Render unto Caesar that which is Caesar’s. Hubbard coined the term, and thus one who takes on the term would seem to then be taking on that identity, that character, that behavior. A Scientologist, striving to live up to that, could tell you that this means something like he or she is dedicated to using the given techniques and principles of Scientology as the way to better their own life and that of others.

This includes adhering absolutely to Hubbard’s published instructions as to how to apply each technique exactly as given. It is not permitted to add, change, or subtract anything, in any process. To fit that definition, a “Scientologist” uses all of the proscribed techniques in the proscribed sequences, omitting none of those techniques, and adding no techniques or methods of application other than those explicitly dictated by Hubbard.

This formal per-the-organization definition also includes total investment in every bit 0f Scientology, finding nothing wanting about it, using Scientology as the solution, or the way to find the solution for everything one could encounter. It does not permit anyone to say anything critical about Scientology as defined by Hubbard, or about any “Scientologists in good standing with the Church of Scientology.”

By that standard, Hubbard’s standard, I am not a Scientologist; I consider it a disservice to my clients to limit my actions and principles to the dictates of another and I find it wise to examine and consider any idea on its own merits, and so I don’t qualify. I neither wholly accept nor reject what I come across merely on the basis of who its “source” is, or appears to be.

In 1965, Hubbard wrote and issued “Keeping Scientology Working,” his list of the “Scientology 10 Commandments.” He ordered it to be included in every training course of any kind in Scientology, and to be the very first item studied in every course. In “Keeping Scientology Working” (Scientologists commonly refer to it as KSW) Hubbard emphatically asserts that he alone divined and developed every meaningful bit of the techniques of Scientology, and stridently drives home his assertion that since he “did it all by myself” that “proves” that no being other than Hubbard could ever contribute a meaningful idea and “get it right,” that anyone else’s “new ideas” would be the ruination of the subject for everybody. The “10 points of Keeping Scientology Working” are all aspects of saying that everyone should learn to do precisely as Hubbard instructs, and zealously guard against any possibility creeping in of even the slightest alteration “for the good of everyone.”

Truth be told, many brilliant people, attracted and led by Hubbard, should be properly credited for being the ones who actually contributed, in my observation, more than Hubbard to the development of the principles and techniques that came to be grouped together under the banner of “Scientology.”

Over the past several years, the term “Independent Scientologist” has been evolving from applying only to those who separated from the organization, while still abiding strictly to Hubbard’s dictated standards, to cover the growing number of people who become comfortable enough with “thinking outside the box”. While there are still, and will likely always be, some strict fundamentalists, for the most part, it does appear that over time, as each person “decompresses” from all the enforced thinking ingrained from their Church of Scientology experience, one gradually regains their comfort with independent thinking.

There are a number of elements attributed to or found in Scientology, and elsewhere, that I do find some  positive value in, which I approach from my own perspective, with the independent freedom to weed out any assertions, ideas or practices that I find unhelpful. Along with everything else I discover to draw from. I continuously work in the direction of assimilating, modifying, adapting and  incorporating all that there is to learn from in this world into my work. Everything is a work in progress, and, at least in my view, nothing is “too perfect to be tampered with”. There has never been, and I believe, never will be a field of endeavor which dead-ends in perfection. And there are many elements and practices in Scientology that I find to be unsupportable, and wholly disagree with.

So, while there are things that can be found in Scientology that do at least bear some relation to what I do, I cannot say that, in this direction I have evolved to and toward, I have long since left behind my investment in the uniform “standard technology” of Scientology, and in any effort or desire to fit into or claim for myself that, or any other proscribed identification; I’m not a “Scientologist”, I’m simply me, and among other endeavors, interests and activities I enjoy and participate in, I’m a self-styled practitioner of therapeutic spiritual counseling, something that is and always will be, at least for me, an evolving, living and growing endeavor.

With love and respect for anyone and everyone working in their own way to do something for others,

Dex

Can you help a person who needs things resolved that came up, or didn’t and should have, in Scientology sessions?

Dex: Yes, of course, that, and bringing about the changes or results that have been sought all along is largely what I do, resolving any lingering issues from past Scientology or Dianetics experience, is a facet of my practice. I have all the techniques and expertise necessary, and have mastered these, and have accumulated a broad history of successes for my clients.

My practice is not limited to such “repairs”, but many of my clients have had decades of previous experience, often going back to the 1960’s and 1970’s, with Scientology auditing, and have been seeking resurgence of the gains that have disappeared or diminished, accomplishment of goals that were never actually achieved, and successful processing of things that were stirred up but not successfully processed and resolved.

Some clients have had “Book one Dianetics” and are interested in professional auditing without all the unattractive aspects of the organizations of the Church of Scientology, others never had experienced a session before. In any case, my practice is centered on accomplishing the individual’s purposes for seeking auditing sessions.

I’ve had many clients over the years who had invested substantial amounts of time, money and effort in Scientology, including their “advanced levels”, who, after our first session, have expressed pleasure and relief of “I’ve finally handled the thing I got into Scientology to handle”. This has been a common occurrence.

What about the idea of “past lives”? What do you have to say about this, and what part, if any, do “past lives” play in your approach of therapeutic spiritual counseling?

Past lives are often a subject of interest and curiosity- “Are past lives real?” I can give you my answer, what you really need is YOUR answer, and confidence in that answer. What we don’t need is people pushing THEIR answer, be it yes or no, on you. There is a wealth of evidence of the existence of past lives, mostly made available by people wishing to enlighten others, or enlist them to agree, so as to help the source of such information to gain a little more confidence in the idea through approval or agreement from others, and the same can be said of those who deny or “debunk” the existence of past lives. Seek your own answer, and be truthful with yourself about whatever degree of confidence you have in your answer. It can be helpful to take what you will from what others have to say, but don’t betray yourself by allowing another to impose their conviction on you, rather than simply offering what they feel for as food for thought. There can be pervasive consequences to buying wholesale and investing yourself in any entire pre-packaged paradigm or system of belief, rather than separately considering those elements that resonate with you, and this elements that produce cognitive dissonance when assimilated.

Bear in mind the following.

“There is no expedient to which a man will not resort to avoid the real labor of thinking.”-

Credited to Sir Joshua Reynolds, an influential eighteenth-century English painter, specializing in portraits, I first came across this quote on a third grade class trip to Thomas Edison’s laboratory in West Orange, New Jersey, where Edison had it displayed on a poster as a reminder and inspiration. I know it has inspired me ever since.

Past live experiences and identities come up not infrequently for my clients in our therapeutic spiritual counseling sessions, although I never suggest them, or ask or direct a client to “look for something earlier”, as I consider imposing suggestion to be a blight when the objectives include empowerment and greater self-trust for the client.
I’ve had past involvement in paradigms in which there was a great deal of “information” imposed to be accepted about past lives, and what is to be found in them. I’ve seen how that created certain expectations, worrying for those who didn’t find that material for themselves, how it became an instrument to be asserted to create impressions of “higher” spiritual status, and how finding such material, insidiously, frequently could be incepted and substituted as a driven goal to be sought through endless paid counseling sessions, burying over and denying the individual’s own particular spiritual interests and aspirations. It has gone so far as to name many “universal past life incidents” that we’ve supposedly all experienced, presented as “essential to be found in order to achieve higher spiritual states and recovery of self”.

It is not uncommon for some of us with spiritual interests, and a need or desire to be seen by others in an admirable light to assert being a “high spirit”, an “old soul”, etc. I don’t mean to assert that anyone isn’t as they think of or present themselves, only that any part in that assertion that anyone else is any less than them serves as an example of how spirituality and/or the subject of having had past lives can be misused, and thus can degrade the subject.

Having thousands of hours spent providing therapeutic spiritual counseling with hundreds of clients, I will share some experiential observations here:

In my view the RELEVANCE of past life recollections is what is really important, and there are 2 main ways in which these can be valuable:

(1)When you are seeking confirmation that you are a spiritual being, and not merely a physical life form;

(2)When you are seeking relief or release of some kind from some undesirable condition, and accomplishing this through identifying some past life experience which, until it is uncovered and consciously digested, continues to impose that condition, and is released once the past life experience is found and processed.

Often, when someone encounters past life experiences, they can remain skeptical that the experience is “real”, and, often, but not always, the more such experiences emerge, the more confidence you’ll develop in them. I believe that one thing that can hamper one’s own trust in these is having had the ideas of such things imposed from an external source, which actually can lead to finding what has been presented as to be expected to be found, thus violating objectivity, and thus leaving a feeling of doubt. In cults or groups in which such concepts are pushed, with the resultant feeling of peer pressure, it can be quite relieving to safely express that one actually has some doubts about the past life images and experiences that have occurred for them, and can sometimes help a person to accept them, contradictory as that may seem.

Despite, in some circles, the pushing of the idea that “the earlier back in time, and the more fantastic the past life experiences recalled, the greater value to one’s spiritual growth”, what I have seen over the many, many sessions I’ve conducted, and continue to conduct, is that almost always, with only occasional exceptions, the most impactful life experiences, which when discovered and consciously processed result in the most powerful and pervasive life-changing relief, and restore joy, serenity, feelings of well-being and a sense that life is wonderful, are those life experiences that happened early in this life, or late in the lifetime just before this one.

Love, Dex

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