When life is difficult, bear in mind that what feels like “always” or “forever”, is really just a single moment, and “time” is composed of consecutive moments, each being its own “eternity”. and you can, not merely experience, but, ultimately, create the moment that is “now” for you, and this is “be here now”, taken to its true root of “create here now”… We are always creating, either through the programmed dictates of out self-created structures, or through conscious goal-based creative thought.
Create here now!
I recently had the honor of treating a former Army Ranger with an extreme case of Post-Traumatic Stress Syndrome (PTSD), as a free service. He had as severe a horror story of war as any I’ve ever heard of.
At the end of that single session, he felt completely relieved of his burden and his condition. He noticed that for the first time in over 20 years, he could breathe easily and normally, and that his chest didn’t feel tight anymore, and was almost shocked that he actually felt relaxed, and he excused himself to go call his mother and his siblings to tell them that he was finally, actually OK again.
I always knew that, given the opportunity, I had the knowledge and skills to relieve a soldier of PTSD, and it is very, very gratifying to have been part of this with him. It is not uncommon for other practitioners to pay me to teach them what I do. Now I only wish and hope that I can find the opportunity to train and mentor many others in my approach and techniques specifically for this purpose of providing relief for soldiers with PTSD.
There are so many who are in need, untreated or not fully successfully treated, and so deserving of help for the sacrifices they have made. I just want to make it known that I am here, available and willing to share what I have come to know and do, and to train others to be effective in helping soldiers suffering from PTSD.
Your negative spiritual architectures will resolve, and dissolve, once you recognize that you felt a need to have them, and then come to recognize that you really don’t need them. They will no longer be a problem once you arrive at a true willingness and decision to let them go.
With love, Dex
Here’s a thought that a current client shared with me today, something that occurred to her through the work we’ve been doing through our ongoing sessions:
“Actually I don’t think I’m neurotic at all—the neuroses come from when I allow myself to be less than what I am!”
– AK, August 2016
Thought for the day:
We all have had situations where we felt an internal dissonance with something we’ve been involved in. Internal, or cognitive dissonance can be defined as “the sensation or condition that accompanies the violating of one’s own spiritual compass”.
One lesson that should be learned very early in life is about empathy and acceptance, about understanding that when people avoid or are otherwise unaccepting of someone in distress, that they are actually caught up in denying and resisting the resonating distress within themselves. And that we would all be much better off making it easy and acceptable for everyone to express themselves without fear of not being accepted, and then nobody would need to feel that they were “not normal” because of their issues. And then, if we all felt free to express what is in us, there would be so much less to need to address such things in counseling sessions, and we could all feel far more comfortable in our own skin, What a wonderful world it could be!
“Real life” is the opportunity for the challenges we create to be experienced by us. Processing makes it easier to find the perspective to observe and make decisions to uncreate the games that have proven or turned undesirable, and to create and energize the better and more worthwhile games. There is fun to be had in life!
Be as you choose to create yourself. People will always cast their impression of you, good, bad or indifferent, onto you, that is what “relating to others” is, along with presenting an impression of oneself to others. Identities are not something natural and hard-wired into us, they are what we decide we are, regardless of whether it comes from our own envisioning of self or from another; in truth, these are changeable, and only as “permanent” as we make or accept them. It can be light, and fun, when consciously being who or what you enjoy being, and it can be a cement casing when it is otherwise. We are often far too susceptible to the impressions of ourselves cast onto us by others, and likewise, we can be far too careless in adopting impressions of others, and casting these onto them. There is an expression, “granting beingness” — this doesn’t mean to cast your idea of another onto them, even if it is meant or thought to be complimentary; it means to grant to others that they are as great as they conceive themselves to be, in whatever attributes, qualities, abilities and aspects. Regard yourself entirely as you envision yourself, and grant the same to others; it may well be impossible to do this all the time, but it is something to work toward, and aspire to. Allow yourself to soar to those great heights you do know to be where you belong, and allow the same to others. You don’t need anyone else’s envisionment, good or bad, of you, and the same is true for others; we all need to be accepted and supported, and thereby, accepting, and supportive, and we’ll all get along better!
How interesting to reflect, as my mother just reminded me today, that back in 9th grade, when I was 14 years old, I took an aptitude test in high school, and out of 200 categories, according to the test results, #’s 1 and 2 highest aptitudes for me were “minister” and “psychiatrist.” And here I am, almost 50 years later, carving my own path, on my own terms, a “Therapeutic Spiritual Counselor,” a melding of those two concepts!
For several years I participated as a featured speaker at yearly “Freezone” conventions, held for those people with Scientology-related interests. Having been a highly trained and experienced practitioner of Scientology counseling has been a significant life experience for me, and played a part in my continued and continuing growth and evolution as a therapeutic spiritual counselor, and there have been elements that I have found useful and beneficial, especially since I’ve been disengaged from the strictures of that paradigm, and able to freely re-examine, and change as I see fit to better align with my own vision of how best to help others to accomplish their own particular goals and purposes, as opposed to those of any authoritarian group or organization.
I must apologize in advance for not having filtered out all the Scientologese lingo, but please do feel free to contact me to clear up any questions or confusions.
I have reworded much of what I said to better communicate, and to compensate for the substandard audio quality of the video of my talk. I have broken it down into sections, of which this is part one. You can watch the video of the full talk on the “Videos” page of this website.
Dex: Hi, guys, can you hear me OK, in every spot? First of all, Trey (to Trey Lotz)-I’m just thinking about what you were saying about being exterior versus in the body, you know. What do you think of the idea that occupying space within the body and occupying space outside of the body are not necessarily mutually exclusive?
Trey Lotz: You are probably doing both..sure.
Dex: I think sometimes all the talk about interior versus exterior (spiritually, in relation to being inside or outside one’s body) can bring about a condition of living that dichotomy, being restimulated (triggered) by being either one or the other…
I’ve got a million things I could talk about, I don’t come with a particular plan- very much like the way I conduct a session [laugh]..Well, “GPM’s” (“Goals Problems Mass”, a term meant to encompass the basis and ramifications of all things that trouble us spiritually and emotionally- continue reading for more-DG) has very much been a subject of discussion today with all the enlightening information first from Rolf (Rolf Dane) and Heidrun (Heidrun Beer) and then with Trey, so I think I’ll give you my spin on that. You know, I’m finding that at this point that you can learn just as much if not more from just been present with your client, with your PC in session observing what’s happening, you know. I’ve made some interesting observations I haven’t seen written anywhere before. Anyway, one thing would be the whole idea of perception versus creation, as being two separate things. I’ve been convinced… three, I guess I realized that about five or six years ago, that creation and perception are really two different sides of the same coin. They cannot be separate from each other. I like to use a word envision or envisionment, because that’s where these two concepts come together. And it’s very true for me anyway, that you experience what you create and the way you experience things is your way that you are creating them for them to be experienced by you. Which is why two people can experience the same thing very differently.
And as to the subject of “GPM’s” at this point, as I am processing these daily, if you’re doing any negative case gain processing at all, some part of that is what you are addressing. So, anyway, the way I see it at this point, there are three basic elements to GPMs, and most of the earlier approaches that I’ve seen, they had a hole in focusing on two of the three, not necessarily the same two. The way I see it – the three components of what Hubbard called “GPM’s,” what Alan Walter called “Games Matrix”, what Enid Vien called “Games Sphere”, which, I kind of like that way (of saying it).. Anyway, -you have identities, you have purposes, and you’ve got the exchanges of energy, or the energetic interactions between identities, forwarding their purposes. One way you can define identity, I’ve never seen it defined these ways, but an identity could be defined as the embodiment of a particular purpose, an identity is created and experienced to forward a particular purpose. That’s the basis of an identity.
You know, you never stop learning, if you want to. In our last convention, Trey, you and I both learned some interesting things from each other, which immediately we found we were applying, and saying, “Hey, that’s pretty cool!”, you know, and what I picked up from you- I’m very experienced and involved in the processing of identities (Using some technique to, in greater or lesser degree, free you of one of your “identities” prefabricated “personas” that are triggered in you when you encounter certain people and situations. A common condition, in which everything- how you feel, how you see things, your attitude and reactions- are all filtered through then triggered “persona” that is currently engaged for you-DG) — I happen to use my own enhanced and modified version of Alan Walter’s Presence Three, which is really, really great; I became aware of one particular hole in that… It is really wonderful, Presence Three, even just in it’s original form. What amazed me, is that every single person I processed on that form of identity processing, or more than 98% of them would say, and most commonly, in these exact words: “I can’t wait to see what my life is going to be like now”, – that’s pretty amazing! You know, I’ve learned more things as I went along, but… Last year Trey was talking about the subject of GPM’s and identities and he brought up something that- Wow, I can’t believe I missed that before, Alan missed that too, but — the relation between purposes and identities…
I just added this right in where I felt it belonged on the sequence of steps of Presence Three Identity Handling-Its the question of, “What has your purpose been for creating and maintaining that identity?” You know? Because if you don’t nail that purpose and re-examine that purpose in everything- you know, in all the negative gain processing, sometimes a process, in my opinion, it doesn’t go deep enough, you process away this thing, but if you don’t process away the condition, or the tendency and/or the attraction to creating that thing in the first place, it will re-manifest in same or similar form.